I just figured out that I was neglected

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Emotionally and medically, that is.
For example: my parents have never encouraged my interests. They always mock me and make me feel bad that I wasn't a 'normal' daughter - I liked dinosaurs and vampires. They always held me under suspicion - e.g I remember a time when I was burning incense in my room and my Dad demanded to know where I was keeping 'the weed' (what f*****g weed??). I recently said I'd run out of paracetamol and they accused me of abusing painkillers (I had a f*****g headcold)
They never brought me to the doctor when I needed to go... When I was 14 a horse tramped on my foot. It was swollen and bruised and I couldn't walk on it. My folks insisted I'd be fine, but it took weeks to heal. Looking back, I'm sure some of my metatarsals were broken. I also frequently got a hacking cough in springtime. I recently went to the doctor about it and he told me I had bronchitis scars in my lungs that made me prone to developing lung infections. In layman's terms I annually develop a mild case of bronchitis because secondhand smoke from my parents f****d up my lungs.
Reflecting on all of this, I'm actually incredibly angry. It occurs to me that my parents have never, ever listened to me, even when I was right. I have a million more examples, but these are just the best ones. I don't really know if I want any feedback on any of this, but I really want to vent. I'm so f*****g done with people ATM.

Being the child of self-absorbed or uncaring parents is painful and lonely, and is emotional starvation.

I know.

So do a lot of people on WP.

Read some sad or bitter letters in The Haven.

You are in good company......we understand what you are saying.

I was lucky to have an awesome mother, very lucky, it's only been in the past couple of years I learned how close she came to dying having me. She may not have always understood what was going on with me but was always understood that I did the best I could.

My father was another story. He was down right abusive toward me, and emotionally neglected my brother. We got medical treatment when we needed but the emotional abuse has left scars that will never quite heal.

And mind I can't prove anything, but whenever he was mad at mom strange things happened to our family pets. Have you ever heard of a cat drowning in a toilet because it fell in and couldn't get back out? And we never did find our pony's foal.

I hear ya sister, and can feel your pain. Best wishes.

Xule, I am really sorry to hear about your story. As Sylkat says, a lot of us here have very similar stories and can relate and sympathise.

Personally, I finally accepted that my childhood sucked, but decided that I would not let it affect me. It took a very long time to get to that stage though. Now it's just part of what I went through, that made me the person I am today. I do find it hard to relate though, when people talk about idyllic happy childhoods with loving parents. Unfortunately you just have to deal with what you get, until you can change your situation.

I hope venting at least made you feel better, and knowing there are other people out there who have been through the same thing.

Best wishes to you.