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As some of you may or may not know, in my life I struggle a bit Online and IRL to make adult friends. Most people hate me and most of the time I am completely oblivious to the reasons why. My aunt recently had a baby he is 3 months old nearing 4 months soon.

I am the black sheep of my family and most of my family rejects me. I don't do well in job situations and I don't talk well to people either. I make one mistake and it seems like a single group of people can shun me.

My father has told me straight to my face that my youngest sibling is more mature than me. Just as he was a younger sibling to my uncle, and he was more successful. He says its the fate of the older child to not succeed basically. True statement and fact.

But back to the point.

My aunt's baby really really likes me, I don't know what it is, but he wants me to hold him. He wants me to put him to sleep. He gets angry when I leave the room. Babysitting him for the night.

Its the oddest thing to be wanted by a tiny human.

I didn't actually know where to put this thread either. But it was merely a thought.

In some ways I want to tell the baby not to get attached to me, I won't be what he expects when he grows older. On another hand, I like to hold him and things.

your father is deviating from the truth, IMHO. and your aunt's new baby has a good friend in you

Babies can be fun, especially when they reach the babbling phase. Of course, the nice thing about other people's kids is that you can hand them back when it's time for a feed, diaper change or you just get fed up with them.

He already kind of babbles. And he makes spit bubbles. He's really soft. I am not a fan of babies normally, I think its cause he is a family member baby that I like him. He's cuddly without shaken baby syndrome going on.

I'd babysit him again. Which is rare for me.

it is good that you are good with children.

Well this specific child yes. I'm surrpised he likes me. My other baby cousin on another side starts to cry whenever I am near. Which further cements my family belief that I am horrible person.

They believe if babies and animals don't like a person then it must mean there is something deeply wrong with that person.

Dogs don't really care for me, but cats love me. Rarely do dogs come up to me, but my sister says when a dog comes up to me she knows that would be the type of dog for us to get in our apartment when we have enough money to get one.

cats love me also, for some reason. dogs hate me, for the most part.

I attract cats. A lot of the time when I do volunteer at the shelters around here.

A senior volunteer goes, "Oh that so and so. I was here for six months and she hasn't come up to me until recently."

Me, I sit on the floor, cat comes out of hiding, and Senior Volunteer looks taken aback and shocked.

and probably a bit crestfallen as well.

Probably, but people just don't understand cats. I realize the ONE problem with every volunteer at every shelter.

When they see a cat hiding, they are:

1. Standing up towering over the cat
2. Make to much noise, "how so so, how are you today, still hiding,"
3. Approach to fast or make to much noise walking

You're suppose to:

1. Come in on their level
2. Stay silent, no eye contact
3. Approach slow [I won't go as far and say be as freaky as me and crawl on cement flooring, but that's what I do]

I pad about like a little ol' lady, they like me a lot better that way.

Same thing with dogs. I can read dog body language very well despite most high energy dogs not really like me so much.

everywhere I go dogs bark viciously at me and strain at the fences/leashes to try to get me and bite me.

I just tend to see poor training. For example was at Petsmart and saw a very nervous dog on a leash. She was scared of the environment. Tail between her legs. I striked a conversation up with the owner, only really cause I wanted to pet the dog I could care less about the human.

Owner, "Oh well she doesn't do well with people, she does better if you walk towards her,"

Of the years in my shelter and working towards certified dog training. That is not how you approach a dog. No wonder her dog was so afraid of people approaching or people in general. Walking forward towards a dog is a challenge, its charging the dog down. You either want to come at A C on her side or you want to sit down on the floor.

I knew The C technique wouldn't work, so I sat on the floor.

Owner, "She normally doesn't come when someone sits.....

Dog comes up to me.

-No eyes
-No contact
-No noise

I let her smell me and she backed away. She had enough, that's when I affectionately said, "good girl". Positive reinforcement for coming up to someone.

She came to me a second time and let me touch her. Again I said, "good girl"

Then I left the owner alone and her dog.

So many problems with animals and the way people hand their pets. And yet, Petsmart won't hire me.

petsmart sounds pretty petdumb to me.

Oh they are. I feel like that annoying a**hole, but I am Cesar Milan up in Petsmarts. Another problem I see is when people hold their leashes of their dog and the dog is pulling. There is two things I really recommend not doing with a dog:

1. Do not use a leash that has the lever that allows you to extend the leash far out, you cannot control the dog better that way
2. Do not hold your leash with so much tension, all it does is amplify the dogs pulling

One lady was having a real struggle with her white german shepard. Who was pulling. I struck up a conversation, really cause I care about the dog. [Yeah I go to pet stores because I am not allowed to have a pet at my grandmother's home, just to use people to pet their animals]

I said, "May I help with the leash,"

Owner, "She's a puller, she'll pull you no matter what,"

I said, "She'll pull the more you pull,"

She handed me the leash, just to prove me wrong. I held the leash at my side relaxed, her dog walked better and stopped pulling.

Owner, "She's never done that before,"

Then the german shepard pulled cause she saw something, the owner smiles like, "But I want this argument" look. Instead I made a correction noise and snapped with my fingers,

I told the shepard to sit, she did so, I used a treat that I took from the vet care and used it for the german shepard to follow me

I said, "Eyes on Me,"

When she tried to pull towards the thing, I used my correction noise, used the treat as a direction, and had her watch me. When she did not pull, she got the treat and she got affection.

I then told the lady, "I recommend clicker training her on the leash. They are like 99 cents around here, use a treat and help her understand her boundaries of the leash,"

The lady thanked me. She then later asked me what treats to use and what clicker to use.

And Petsmart won't hire me, lol. I didn't pass their personality test. Seriously though they could have me a personalize trainer just walk around the store