How should my mom treat my sister in law

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This will be a rather long post.

My brother got married about a year ago, and I liked his wife better when she was only his girlfriend. At least my mom treated her as such! I mean, now she practically treats her like a daughter! My mom has only one daughter. Me. If she wanted more, why didn't she have them? But I mean, she treats this girls practically as if she were me.

In that, my dad has sense, I'll give him that. Sometimes, he exasperates me, but maybe because he and I actually have more in common than we seem. He's never rude to people, but he would never treat someone else as he does me. It's one thing to say 'hello' and be courteous, but he knows to keep his distance. He behaves as though he knows she is his daughter-in-law, not his daughter. He doesn't treat her with as much...familiarity as he does me. I just feel...more secure. My dad would never treat anyone else the same way he treats me.

Still, like I said, why does my mom treat her as though she were a daughter? She has no business whatsoever in my parents' bedroom, especially when my mom is in bed! My brother and I are one thing, as we are her children. I'm guessing next weekend, I should put up a sign and invite the neighbors to behave as if the house was theirs, to be going upstairs, sit on the footstool where I sit, or do everything I do.

It's just not right that my mom treats her as a daughter. My dad treats her like an in-law, which is how it should be. If it wasn't for the fact that they're mine, she would probably be upstairs re-arranging my things, or 'borrowing' my books, just making herself at home. She should stick to the communal parts of the house, the living room, dining room, etc.

I'm running out of options here, if I ever had any in the first place. I've already spoken to my mom, and she only got mad. She even said things to me that she hasn't said in years. My dad isn't particularly fond of being bothered with problems not his own. He has his own things(watching his sports games, work, etc). I know my mom thinks I'm selfish, and I admit that perhaps I am. But in order for me to share and treat a person different, it must come from my heart. I want to see people who are special to be happy, and to share with them. But even so, I keep a distance. They do, too.

Sorry for the long post

These are your feelings and your opinions, and you have a right as all human beings do, to express yourself.

Perhaps your mother does not have many friends, and now feels that she has a 'best friend'?

Perhaps she always did want more kids and it just did not happen?

In some cultures, a new bride is considered to become a daughter rot her husband's family, and even makes a sort of ow to her new mother-in-law at the ceremony.....perhaps there is some tradition here?


Perhaps your new sister-in-law just needs to get a job to focus her time on, instead of spending so much time at your parents' house?

Maybe your brother could use the financial help, too.

My mom has plenty of friends.

Then again, she doesn't give my mom half the problems and frustrations I do. Quite the contrary. She's a useful girl. For me, when have I done a thing for myself? Perhaps we should switch roles. I should treat my mom with more formality, and she should treat her more intimately. I like to see people I care for happy, and if having my sister-in-law as a daughter makes her happy. Or maybe from the very beginning, she was right and I was wrong.