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03 Feb 2008, 1:01 pm

Agree or disagree, and why?



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03 Feb 2008, 1:15 pm

Disagree. I have several female friends. Most of which are also my mom's friends :lol:



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03 Feb 2008, 1:27 pm

I disagree; I get along better with men than I do women.

Men don’t expect me to gossip or discuss female problems.



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03 Feb 2008, 1:37 pm

Lumina wrote:
I disagree; I get along better with men than I do women.

Men don’t expect me to gossip or discuss female problems.


I agree with you as to the why, but it seems for me that somehow being friends with guys only causes inevitable problems. I never wanted to believe this was true, but it seems to be for me. Either society has something erroneous to say about it or one of the friends has romantic feelings or (if either of them have a significant other) their partners get upset. I suppose it can work fine if both are single and all romantic feelings are left unsaid, if any exist, but I've never found a friendship with a guy that didn't involve some of the above. And I find it disappointing because I struggle deeply with female friendships.



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03 Feb 2008, 2:01 pm

I also get along better with men.


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03 Feb 2008, 2:04 pm

Men are cool-oh. I don't have to talk babies or sewing around them. And the only one to go romantic with me has my permission to do so. Yip!


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03 Feb 2008, 2:11 pm

Mikomi wrote:
Lumina wrote:
I disagree; I get along better with men than I do women.

Men don’t expect me to gossip or discuss female problems.


I agree with you as to the why, but it seems for me that somehow being friends with guys only causes inevitable problems. I never wanted to believe this was true, but it seems to be for me. Either society has something erroneous to say about it or one of the friends has romantic feelings or (if either of them have a significant other) their partners get upset. I suppose it can work fine if both are single and all romantic feelings are left unsaid, if any exist, but I've never found a friendship with a guy that didn't involve some of the above. And I find it disappointing because I struggle deeply with female friendships.


It sounds as though you and I both struggle with females. They can be quite fickle and that is something I don’t understand. Make up your minds, girls! :lol:

I think it has more to do with the society. I’m seen as the friendly (not flirty friendly, either) tomboy that men don’t have to worry about my wanting to develop a romantic relationship with them. Being married probably helps quell their fears, also. Even while I was single, I had more male friends than female.

I do see how being friends with men has it’s downside when they’re in a relationship. The significant other sees it has a threat. I suppose I would too if my husband were a little too close to someone of the opposite sex. I look at it as them having some trust issues with their partner. Why look at me as a threat when it’s obvious he has no attraction towards me. If a man happens to develop feelings towards me, I put it out there that I’m not interested.



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03 Feb 2008, 2:19 pm

I feel more comfortable around men. I'm not sure why, maybe because they tend to seem more laid-back. Possibly also because girls are so competitive with one another.



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03 Feb 2008, 2:53 pm

Disagree. All my friends in junior high were male.



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03 Feb 2008, 3:00 pm

Agree. You say they were friends; they just wanted in your pants.



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03 Feb 2008, 3:04 pm

Lumina wrote:
I disagree; I get along better with men than I do women.

Men don’t expect me to gossip or discuss female problems.


I usually get along better with females (I'm a guy) because I have no interest in cars or sports (I'm not interested in stereotypical female interests either, but nobody expects or assumes me to be, and in any case my friends are not usually 'girly girls'). Opposite sex friendships can work fine if neither one is romantically attracted to the other. There is an unspoken societal taboo against opposite sex friendship (unless it's with benefits).


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03 Feb 2008, 3:06 pm

Kalister1 wrote:
Agree. You say they were friends; they just wanted in your pants.


Disagree. They were all gay. :lol:



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03 Feb 2008, 3:15 pm

disagre i have lucy at school and jack and meganj and b


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03 Feb 2008, 3:16 pm

IdahoRose wrote:
Kalister1 wrote:
Agree. You say they were friends; they just wanted in your pants.


Disagree. They were all gay. :lol:


Well there you go miss!



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03 Feb 2008, 3:28 pm

Kalister1 wrote:
IdahoRose wrote:
Kalister1 wrote:
Agree. You say they were friends; they just wanted in your pants.


Disagree. They were all gay. :lol:


Well there you go miss!


Am I the only heterosexual male that is not sexually interested in every single girl out there that is not my relative?


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03 Feb 2008, 3:29 pm

Actually, I know other cases, so I'm not the only one. But this shows what I was saying about it being taboo.


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