Why Does This Keep Happening To Me?

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As soon as I think about anything in an appreciative way, something almost immediately goes wrong with it. I first realized this when I was a young teenager. I was angry at the world and wrote in my diary that the only things I loved were my cat, my oldest brother, and my father. Within a short period of time, my cat died, my father moved out and took my brother with him. Over the years, I've been afraid to admit to myself that I'm thankful for anything. Yesterday, for instance, I was watching a movie on my DVD player. Coincidentally, it was Mozart And The Whale. When DVD players first came out, I got three lemons in a row and had to keep taking them back to the store. This one I've had for a couple years now. I was just thinking, "I'm so glad this DVD player has lasted, after all the trouble I had with the other ones." Wouldn't you know it, the darn thing stopped working before the movie was over! Today, it still doesn't work! Does this happen to other Aspies? I'm hoping it's part of that psychic instinct and not (being paranoid here) that the world is out to get me.

I don't get that exactly, but I have noticed that whenever I think the days is going well or after I've been somewhere or done something good, something will always go wrong, or someone will say something to me which will make me really sad for the rest of the day. So I don't think I get the same thing as you, but I guess it is similar. Everytime I think I'm having a good day, I almost know that something will change that before the day is over. So now in a way I just prefer having average days than good days, because good days never last

I think it's probably part of aspie-ness.

I spent a lifetime feeling something was wrong with me and that everything bad always and only happened to me. I felt jinxed, like I was bad luck.

While I have had strings of bad luck, I now realize everyone has their good and bad times. And everyone has those times in life where things just seem to go so wrong..

It sucks, but remember: it is life. Maybe everyone doesn't have your specific problems, but each and every person has their own negative stuff to deal with...

Thanks for the kind words! I don't really think my life is all that bad. I'm fairly content with it now. NT's, on the other hand, would think plenty was wrong with it. Now that I'm pretty certain that I'm wired differently than them, I'm not so worried about what they think any more.

It's just that these occurrences seem to happen to me all the time. Like I said, I'd prefer to think of them as psychic energy/sixth sense/whatever people want to call it (like a part of me knew the DVD player was about to go out).

maybe to be Aspie is to be Jinxed??

bit like those RPG games where you choose extra characteristics that give you a bonus and a penalty....

sucks if that IS true...

Yeah, that's kind of like when people say that they like to think that only bad things will happen to them, so that they're pleasantly suprised if something good actually does happen.

when i get stressed i seem to give off a lot of static electric
i once gave very nerve-racking presentation at work, the bulb exploded in the first projector, i got a back up but within 5 min it started smoking then set on fire!
however i carried on with the presentation as if nothing was wrong ...

i don`t know if things break around me more than they should or if it is those deceitful NTs that hide the fact they broke it and leave it for the next user

way to go Carrie...LOL

you have to get away from your step dad if you have one. they always have bad karma

i concurr, they are bad news...

I am very happy with what I have, but I don't boast about it, because I fear that it could all be taken away. I have had some significant personal losses over the past two years. I have also been worried about my cats since the pet food scare.

Oh, I know! I'm always worried about losing everything too.

Well, I don't have a step-dad, but I do have a step-mother who is just like the ones in the fairy tales. She's not happy, if she thinks I might be happy.

I had to chuckle when I read about having a step-dad. My mom has been divorced for 21 years and has never said more than a few words to any man in all that time. She may be an Aspie, but she's also schizophrenic, a hypochondriac, and a host of others -- none of which she would allow anyone to diagnose (read: denial). I still marvel over the fact that she ever got married at all.

I sure hope not, but I definitely feel like I'm cursed socially. I always had hope that I would, eventually, figure it out. Now, that I know that I'm probably (at least partially) an Aspie, I guess I've kind of lost hope that I will ever fit in entirely. I've been trying, especially, hard with eye contact, because I know that's one thing I can force myself to do. It still makes me feel weird, like I'm staring at them. There seems to be a fine line between normal eye contact and creepy eye contact. I don't want to be looking at them like this: Know what I mean?

you gotta get away from those step parents dog. there nothing but trouble

You're definitely right, in this case. I know there are, actually, some nice ones; but it doesn't sound like you've found one of them either. I didn't really get the choice as to whether I would have anything to do with my stepmother. I tried everything to be nice to her, but she managed to get rid of me by making up incredible stories about how I was mean to her. Total lies! Anyway, my father felt like he had to choose. Guess who he chose? I got a letter telling me that he was sorry, but he could no longer have anything to do with me or my kids. Lovely! My poor kids grieved the loss, and I probably did too, even though I wouldn't admit it.