I'm Very Isolated...

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I was strongly encouraged to join this site by a parent and so to keep them happy I did, however I am really unsure whether it is even worth ever coming back to. Nobody ever seems to want to talk to me, I'm an undiagnosed "aspie" but sometimes it is either everyone irritating me or me irritating them. I never get any random text messages out of the blue, just simple things saying things like 'hey how are you?' it really annoys me how I always have to be the first to start a conversation, but I'm wondering why I even make the effort.

I'm relatively new to this site and have been pretty annoyed with it so far, mostly because I can type a long message like this and then click 'save draft' and the whole thing just disappears. So I have to do it all over again. It needs an overhaul in my opinion, easier to navigate. I've only posted two things so far and neither of them have garnered any replies, even though they are very interesting. I noticed the date of one of the topics I replied to was 2011, and if they haven't been online since then is there much chance of them or anyone else seeing my reply anytime soon?

But yes, I get compared to Dr Sheldon Cooper, I admit I do share some of his quirks and traits but consider myself a far less extreme example. Facebook is annoying at times as well, I can put up a very entertaining post and nobody pays any due attention whatsoever, when everything else I see is just garbage, Kim Kardashian, latest crazes and diets, Brangelina, X-Factor, just useless things. And I try to raise the standard, post something educational and thought-provoking but no it just sits there on my wall gathering dust. While some bint can post a chesty selfie and get 600 likes and comments, but for what? because she can use a smartphone? The damn thing probably has a higher IQ than she does! So frustrating.

So yeah I came on here hoping maybe it would be different, better, actually communicate with decent conversation. It's like I can't find anyone to have a lengthy and meaningful discussion about a particular topic who is on my level, who knows things people often forget, heck I remember cast names and their character names, I remember many quotes and dialogue and scenes.

I just can't stand the idea of reaching 65 and not having anyone to connect with. Someone to cuddle up with on the sofa and watch movies, things that everyone else takes for granted. Everyone around me seems to be in relationships, getting married, having kids, and I'm just like how the hell did that happen?

I don't do nightclubs or bars, rarely go out after dark, and have high standards when it comes to girls, I'm not about to entertain some boozy-binge queen. I've done that before. Long time ago. Never again.

I don't drink either, by the way, just makes me boring I guess, but when everyone else is hammered, I don't see why it should be me to make sure they stay safe or out of trouble. One girl I pulled out of the road on NYE when she was tanked up, and her mate hardly cared. One girl I fell for, heavily, but it was no reciprocated, I always seem to end up in the proverbial "friend zone". It took me three years to get over her, but even then she left a scar on my heart. I don't think she ever quite realized how much she affected me. And now I'm very cautious about getting too close to anyone, because I can't stand the idea of going through that heartache all over again. Feels like a vicious cycle.

I do worry about my future, about being alone, because people do stupid things when they feel they have no future worth living.

But anyway, whether this site is worth returning to I will find out in time, if nobody replies to this then I suppose I have my answer.

My life isn't all bad, just I do get very lonely, most of the time I'm fine on my own, but everyone sometimes craves some companionship, just someone who thinks of you when you are not around. Anyway. Time to submit this I think, will probably wind up deleted anyway or lost in cyberspace.

I can relate to the feelings of isolation but I don't understand how you can say nobody talks to you and that you annoy everyone, you've only made 3 posts!

Yes I've only posted three things on here, I'm not about to submit 1046 posts and not have anyone reply. I must annoy them, I can sort of tell. I'm weird or crazy. I only have 102 "friends" on Facebook, and I only speak to a handful of them, usually relatives. But I have an almost non-existent social life. I try to be myself, but I do wonder if I try and be 'normal' if more people will engage with me.

A post like "yo every1 C x-facto las nite woz epic" would probably look odd from me, but from somebody else have loads of comments about it. And I can't stand that kind of 'textspeak', I always pride myself in good grammar, punctuation and spelling. I think they just see my name next to the text or picture and scroll on by, not worth their time. I've considered closing my account several times, so far I haven't.

Well you'll find here that there a lot of people that don't even use Facebook myself included, if you participate in the forum then people will interact with you. What interests do you have?

Creative writing, certain film franchises, video-games, and a load of other things I don't really have the patience to type up

Firstly I absolutely agree that WP needs some serious work; I have learned to copy any longer posts before I press 'submit', that way you haven't wasted your time if it disappears. I would advise against digging up old threads. Whilst they can be of merit, you're likely to get more interest with recent, active discussions, especially if you want a response from the OP. If they wrote it in 2011, it's unlikely you'll hear back from them.

I haven't been on facebook for many years, I found it to be frustratingly vacuous and a waste of my time. Why do you use it, if you don't like the vapid culture there? If you're trying to engage people with interesting posts and not gaining any traction, perhaps those posts would do better on an appropriate forum. Certainly the responses would be more fulfilling. On which subject:

racheypie666

Firstly, sorry for making you feel uncomfortable, was not my intention. I just get so wound up that I take to pointless insults. And how did you do that quote bar thing? That section of my post within yours? That is a handy reference tool.

I have looked at a few other posts. and seen what I expected to. I probably shouldn't have to ask what LTRs are, I'm usually quite good with acronyms but I'm unfamiliar with that one. I do also get some socialization at work, get on very well with my boss (how odd most people probably think) but we are good mates, but I make sure that our interesting chats never come before work that needs doing. I'm the same with most of what you said, don't make new friends often, and even then, struggle to keep them, that is if I even like them.

Ha that made me laugh on the 'I don't drink either paragraph', I agree with it all, the bit at the end, what's another barrier was somewhat amusing.

I'm becoming less and less likely to condemn WP, these replies are helping me. Intelligent life! I am currently seeking official diagnosis, seen a number of shrinks and therapists, it is 'in the works' so to speak.

Thank you, it is nice to meet you too I think it is purely behavioural, like routine, 'my spot' interest in trains, eidetic memory, and sometimes missing underlying context in verbal communication. When it comes to interest in physics, well, it is somewhat neutral, I do appreciate it but do not pursue it. My quirk lies in a place like Palaeozoology and Biology, maybe a bit in Astronomy and Geology.

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No need to apologise, I don't go looking to be offended but I thought I'd flag it as there are some consistently misogynistic posters on here (it's the internet after all), and I often wonder if it's their intention to seem so. It's hard to divine the strength or context of insults in written form, I can see you were just more generally annoyed in this case .

LTRs are Long Term Relationships. I shouldn't have used acronyms really since you're new, sorry! I only learned that one here recently myself. It's nice you get on with your boss, quite a rarity too I have to say! I get on very well with my team leader (it helps we're the same age and both have thorough work ethics), whilst my boss has only just started to notice me. If he notices you, it means you've done very badly or very well; fortunately in this case it's the latter, but I can't see us being best buds any time soon!

I'm glad you're starting to see a better side to WP. It can take a little while to get into it, especially if your posts get missed, but in my experience it's an invaluable resource. Good luck with your diagnosis!

I thought you might be more of a paleozoology kind of guy, given your username. I can relate to a lot of your behavioural quirks and eidetic memory. Just last night my brother was teasing me about my love of facts and figures, and I was trying to brush him off. Five minutes later he mentioned the super moon and I rattled off a bunch of facts about it, what percentage bigger and brighter it was, what caused it, how often it occurred etc.. He started laughing and it took me a while to figure out I'd just proved his point !

Edit: To quote a post click the 'quote' button in the top right hand corner. You can then edit it down to the line/s you want to reference. Alternatively you can do it manually - when you quote using the button you will see the quotation enclosed by some code in square brackets. You can replicate the square brackets part yourself and quote without the button when you get used to it .

racheypie666

I will have to try that quote technique when on a computer and not a mobile, it is too tricky otherwise.

I tend to do that, I know the super-moon will not appear again until 2034. But I can hear or see something and produce an oral essay and carry on with myself even when everybody else has stopped listening.

Ah yes, LTR seems very obvious now. My happy working relationship with my boss and coworkers makes my job that much nicer, I enjoy school holidays when we are in and they are not (the pupils and majority of the faculty) and have brews while chewing on everything from politics to current affairs.

I'm now waiting to hear back about my results, hopefully they have enough information now to make a definitive diagnosis. Oh yes I love prehistoric animals/times, an obsession really. But I won't bore you with the details.