Why do some people feel that they can't ask questions?

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I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who asked what type of conversations piqued my interest. I had told him that I enjoy straightforward, blunt, and taboo topics [for me, any and all questions are on the table]. He proceeded to ask what breasts are like, what sucks about bras, etc. He also apologized quite a few times for asking, making sure that I didn't have to answer any of them if they made me feel uncomfortable [which they didn't]. He feared that I would see him as less of a human for some reason

I just don't understand what the problem is in asking questions like that... I can see how, if the person had ulterior motives, it could be inappropriate...but what if someone is genuinely curious; pure with their intentions? Why is it considered wrong to do...? I feel like, if you limit the types of questions that someone can ask, you are basically stunting their growth and understanding of others. How is one supposed to learn if they aren't allowed to ask questions?

I believe it's the fear of being judged as many people for years and even get ridiculed for asking/answering questions in regards to, especially for "taboo" subjects. This judgment does happen a lot, at least from my experience and the experience of some others I know and have read about.

Not saying you're bad for being curious as it's good to have curiosity towards this stuff but I do think that it's expected for your friend to be reserved in not feeling comfortable with asking any further. I don't know how many times it's been for me when I was questioned about my sexual interests and my belief systems where trying to explain it to them as led them to resort to, "Oh Hell no! That's too weird, get away from me freak!" Your friend might of just had bad experience or the fact that culturally in society, certain topics are looked down upon and that's expressed a lot through media and just peer pressure. It gets ingrained in the minds of others, like myself, and it become apparent that, talking about "this" will 94% chance lead into "that".

If you were to specifically ask questions about certain things about myself I'd have to really sit and consider the possible outcomes that would happen if I were to answer and I may just deny any sort of response to avoid potential debating as I have already done a few times on here... I'd have to mentally prepare myself for the possible judgment before I open my mouth.

Overall, yes it's good to ask questions about these things and it shouldn't be a problem to have a conversation about taboo topics but in the world we live in today, sometimes it's just not socially-accepted.

Ah. Thank you for explaining this to me. I've always been very open when it comes to asking and answering questions [in great detail if need be] and, over time, I've realized that this makes people very uncomfortable.

I made sure to tell him that, at least with me, there is no risk of offending me in any way since I don't get offended easily. I suppose that it could have been a bad/awkward experience with someone else or the fact that this stuff gets swept under the rug by most people or socially "outlawed" so to speak... I find it kind of sad that people feel like they can't ask things

Again, thank you for answering