I never went through a "boys are icky" phase.

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Not sure why, but I was thinking about this earlier. It's not uncommon for Primary school aged children to act like the opposite sex is "Icky", but personally I just never really understood why.

Sure, I acted like I did- whenever my friends acted this way I would pretend that I felt the same. A part of me knew that the way the girls were treating the guys was unfair (and vice versa) yet I'd go along with it anyway, because my friends would say that if I hung out with the boys we could no longer be friends, that I had to make some kind of choice.

It was always annoying to me back then that if I so much as talked to a boy, teachers would both tease us. "Oooh, did he make you laugh? Do you like...like him?".

Um no I just laughed at a funny joke, because it was funny, it doesn't mean I like him that way.

Little did they know that I would end up being gay once puberty hit...

One time I was over at a friend's house, we were trying on dresses and practising for this Summer event we had to go to, and her little brother kept trying to get me to play with him. So, I kept switching from helping to build toy towers with her brother, to practising and discussing our roles at this event we had planned.

The other girls thought it was weird that I wasn't just ignoring him, but I just felt bad because he seemed lonely and bored, so I wanted to stay for a short while and help him build their tower.

Not sure why he kept coming over and asking me specifically, perhaps he could tell I was bored too, most likely it was because I was the only one who wasn't ignoring him.

Even in Secondary there was this gender divide, but at that point I'd given up caring what my female friends thought and started hanging out with people of all kinds.

Apart from two female friends in junior high school, and a friend in college, all of the (real/longterm) friendships Ive had throughout my life have been with males. Unlike your experience, there never seemed to be much of noticable gender devide - or, at least, not from my perspective, anyway.

Happy New Year, by the way! : )

I think I might still be going through that "phase" now.

I sorta did, but think of it now as more an attempt to perform "girliness". I tried to be girly but it didn't work out in the slightest.

I don't think I ever really went through a 'girls are icky' stage, females have always been over-represented within my social circle.

I used to pretend to think girls are icky—until I was about 12, when I started noticing that I really liked girls’ bodies.

Then, I didn’t care what the other guys thought. I knew I was growing up.

I liked girls from the beginning. I remember there was a girl I liked in preschool/kindergarten (I don't remember which), and when I made a sad face as I watched her get off the bus after school, another kid asked if I liked her. I said yes, and he essentially accused me of having "kooties". But I never tried to hide it.

I don't believe I ever went through a "girls are icky" phase. I grew up primarily around women and was shown how to treat women in a respectful manner, but I hate it when somebody calls me a "gentleman" because IMO, the word is derogatory and makes me feel ashamed of myself.

For this part, you are going to have to PM me for the rest because I feel posting all the details in this thread would be inappropriate:


A few years ago, I met a very attractive lady who had moved to my area of Portland. She was a heavy smoker {who never offered me smokes because I don't smoke}, was a heavy consumer of alcohol {who never offered me alcohol because I don't drink alcohol} and was always excited whenever we saw each other. This was during a period of crisis in my family which caused me to feel stress because I felt I had no one to turn to which lasted for two years. When we first met, she told me she worked at a bar and often worked overtime and during her overtime shifts, male customers often hit on not only her, but also two of her co-workers. Her shift supervisor didn't do much about it other than telling male customers {only if they were drunk} to leave.

Now for this part which is more appropriate:

I was bullied a lot during my middle school years because I didn't fit in very well. I had trouble making friends and many of my classmates often interacted with others who came from similar backgrounds.

{Even two of my teachers gave me and other misfits a hard time.}

I tried telling a girl I had a huge crush on that I liked her but thankfully nothing happened between us. She was one of the popular "It Girls" and I was a misfit.

The connection between me and her unexpectedly changed shortly after the passing of my father. As word began to spread and kids saw me as more of an easy target, she {whenever she was by herself} broke "character" {quotation marks intended} whenever she saw me. We often made awkward, yet thoughtful conversation.

One day, one of her fellow "It Girls" walked in on us talking in the auditorium on a rainy day. She was shocked by how nice my crush was being towards me. Word began spreading almost immediately which in turn compelled my crush to tell me to kiss her as a means of telling her fellow "It Girl" to back off and not be inconsiderate anymore.

Unfortunately, a kiss between me and my middle school crush did not happen.

Now, she works in the dental field, is married, and is living in another area of Portland.

A gentleman is a man of dignity.

The boys would bully me when I was little so I hung out with the girls more & did some girly things like playing dolls with them. I also have 3 cousins who are around my age & two of them are girls & the boy one was a bully in general so maybe this is another reason I preferred girls. When I got alittle older some of the girls started to bully me & the guys didn't bully me as much so I started associating with boys more.