What are/were you parents like?

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The concept of someone being social inept VS adept at social situations at first glance may seem clear-cut, but is it? Alright, here's an example for you, my mum is a rather literal thinker and she is also bluntly honest with little filter. Going by this alone, you might place my mum in the socially inept category. However, despite her brutal honesty and tendency to miss things due to literal interpretations, she manages to maintain a busy social life with a social circle containing more than twenty friends. Something you'd associate with being adept at such things.

My dad is a lot less people-orientated. He prefers hobbies he can do alone, and spends most of his time either researching or taking part in his interests. Unlike my mum, he dislikes parties and would rather work on personal projects instead. A few of his obsessions have lasted for most of my life. When he gets into a conversation he can talk for hours (especially if it is about one of his interests, my mum always says not to bring up certain topics unless you want a two to four hour lecture on the subject ) but he only really talks to family members and a few members of the clubs he is in. Sometimes he refers to himself as "Billy No-Mates" but he's quite content with this.

Both of my parents don't understand why it's socially unacceptable to talk about death, gore, and other taboo subjects at the dinner table. They are both into science (especially my dad) and don't shy away from detail with topics such as leg operations.

Authoritarian, if not totalitarian dictators. If they disn’t Understand something, they labeled it stupidity. If they didn’t like the content, it was labeled as stupidity. If I liked something they didn’t understand or liked, I was labeled as stupid.

There were like the stereotypical Marine Drill Instructor. When they yelled “Jump!”, you asked, “How high?” When they screamed “Sh!t!”, you responded, “What color, consistency, and where?”

They were always right, and I was always wrong, even if I could prove to them 15 different ways to Sunday i’m Right.

My parents are both pretty good socially. My mom was a pre-K teacher thou she taught 8th grade for half a year & taught a lower grade like kindergarten or 1st for one year. She really liked working with the kids when she was allowed to do what she wanted to with them. There's way too much bureaucracy thou. There's LOTS of social stuff with that kind of job. She was overworked thou & isn't afraid to speak her mind & stand up for herself or others so she rubbed some the wrong way. She's retired nowadays & she has a couple friends she sees regularly & occasionally sees a couple others. She's kind of introverted thou & likes more creative things involving crafts like baking, fixing antique furniture, & she got into soap making a year or so ago. She likes gardening too but she cant do that much nowadays due to health issues. She also likes going to music festivals like jazz fest, & blues & BBQ but my dad's more into it than she is.
My mom didn't really understand my various mental & physical issues & got frustrated with me pretty easily & was very critical of things about me. I had LOTS of arguments, fights, & meltdowns with her. She's done lots of things for me thou that most parents wouldn't do for their kids by the time they were my age.

My dad works in construction. He's at the retirement age but he isn't ready to retire yet since his health is still good. My parents have a bit of money saved up, they're lower middle class but they kind of worry about spending money sometimes. They were poor when they got married & worked very hard to rise up to the level they're at now. My dad's pretty good at dealing with other various workers & homeowners. It's pretty common for him to see somebody he knows when shopping in the nearby towns/cities & he can get caught up in talking. He seems kinda energized from it. It frustrates my mom because when she goes shopping she wants to just get or look at what she wants/needs to & leave. My dad doesn't really hangout with friends outside of work thou. He's kind of passive & tends to go along with what others want & it's kinda hard for him to make decisions that involve others. He likes doing various construction or fixer-upper projects around the house. He also likes fixing antique furniture, gardening, & going off to places like shopping or going to places in New Orleans(he grew up around there but lives an hour away nowadays). he has a hard time finishing projects around the house thou maybe due to his ADD. It makes me & my mom wonder how he can be so good at his job. My dad listens to blues or jazz a lot & that's the only music he'll listen to. He wants control of the music whenever he's in the car with me &/or mom.
My dad was more laid back & easy going with me than my mom was but he was very quick to punish me when i ticked off mom enough. He punished me by taking the TV out my room but that quit 1ce I graduated high-skewl.