Taking a break

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I'm not going to say I'm quitting especially as this place is a helpful resource for autism and sometimes I have issues with my autism especially pertaining to light sensitivity and I might need the help I can find on here.

Also I have met a lot of good people on here. You know when an NT ex says 'it's not you, it's me' and they're lying? (ok actually this has only ever been seen by me in a movie/soap - I have never seen someone do this in real life). This time I mean it. A lot of good people are on here and I don't think I've had any truly negative interactions.

However - this site isn't good for me. It messes with my social anxiety and makes me over analyse my life/feel the need to make my life accessible to an outside audience as if it's a piece of media rather than a life. It's the same as other social media in that regard. I over speak about my life and it messes with - I guess my natural instincts? I've noticed myself running back and forth between WP and Reddit instead of getting on with my day. Not what my move was for. I moved house so I could live in the real world.

So I'm logging off for a bit. I'll be back when I've got an autism related question or piece of advice to give or had a break.

I've met some good people on here, especially Kraftie, Trueno, Save Ferris and I'm sure some others whose names I'm forgetting (sorry).

In its place, I think I'm going to get myself a diary. Or just try living my life on instinct for a bit.

I'm HFA with social anxiety and my anxiety is more of a concern to me than my HFA. In my experience, cutting down on social media like here and Reddit really helps to relieve myself of it - when I left Twitter I felt really good about myself for a change and I'm back to feeling like I did when I was on there.

I'll miss your posts, but "taking a break" is ok. Reform, regroup, watch some footie and come back stronger. I find this forum overheats my brain too, but I'm on holiday in a week and I always go with no phone, no telly, no newspapers, no nothing... just my sci-fi books. Hopefully see you back soon.
Best wishes.

Thanks - sounds like bliss. Reminds me of an Arvon course I took once.

I've figured out my issue is I'm somewhere where the things that made me stand out in my youth aren't strong enough - got called taig all the time when I was 14, now I'm amongst actual Irish people - so I'm clinging onto things like obsessing over football, wearing football stuff all the time and going onto international forums and talking about football so I don't look like an eejit or outcast. Makes me look like more of one.

Even though quite a few of the guys around here are like me and you never see them out of Celtic stuff - I mean NT middle aged blokes.

I'm also hurting over dad rejecting me. But he had little to teach me anyway.

Still love my team so I'll still keep watching with my pals etc. Just it's the expectation of a football fan here and I find that a bit - odd is the wrong word, of a rare and lovely thing I guess is how to put it. So I'm over indulging in it because I know I won't take heat.

And these people get other things not just football. They play the music I grew up on and cook the food I grew up eating. These islands might seem like a small place from afar but it really does feel like cultural differences.

So like I said, bye for now. I'll be back if I need help but it's best if I take a break.

You need to do what's right for you TUF , you are not alone , this site can be unhealthy for members sometimes.

Come back TUFer ( tougher ) and stronger dude

I'm back guys.

I figured out the best thing to do on here is not talk about football over much.

Welcome back um er KT67