Amount of Posts and Join Date of other forum members

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When I had only about 50 posts, I asked someone why people weren't responding to me. That someone (who had 2,000 posts) told me "What do you want? you only have 50 posts." I didn't think that made all that much sense.

I respect what a person says regardless of post count.

The "counting threads" were put there for a reason: many autistic people like the routine and the consistency which is part and parcel of the "counting threads."

It's good to be "respected." It's even better to be "liked."

Not really off topic....we're talking about the "respect" that's given to people who have high post counts, over people with low post counts.

I said I'd rather be "liked" than "respected."

Not too much divergence there

This wouldn't matter on a big site but it's quite a small site so I 'recognise' some people.

I feel like respect should be "earned." I don't believe respect is a "birthright."

Nor do I believe that an older person should automatically be "respected" because of relatively advanced age.

Yep. I believe people have the right to be treated with dignity at all times as a "default."

What I mean is being polite. I'm sorry if any of you here have had a misunderstanding about what I meant earlier.
When someone talks to me or about me in a way that sounds normal, not necessarily respectful or disrespectful, then that is polite enough. I dont mean that people should always respect me 100%. But there should be a minimum amount of respect, enough so I can discuss something with other people without feeling like they are trying to piss me off.
Being polite has nothing to do with whether the other person had earned the respect or not. Being polite is a very basic thing that everyone needs to do.
Have manners, be polite or show respect - all of these terms to me mean the same thing, but "polite" might be the most accurate. I just dont always use certain words in English. I don't speak or write in English in real life, only on the Internet. If I made some language mistake, that's the reason.
I wouldnt quit the forums or stop participating in discussions, even if people would have started to disrespect me because of my join date or posts, or even because of something else. I just would feel a little less comfortable with it, if it would have happened. But almost everyone who is active already knows me and gets used to my presence. If anyone had a problem with my presence on the forums I would have already know of it by now, I think.

This is a slight diversion from the main point of the thread, but it sort of ties in with the 'respect' and 'liking' elements, so here goes:

There are three long term WP members whom I've been unable to get to respond to a single one of my posts, or to acknowledge my presence here in over five years. I've posted in their threads, quoted their posts, asked them questions directly within the thread, but never a hint of a reaction, even in the form of an emoji. This usually makes me smile, but it can occasionally get me down if I'm feeling a bit low anyway. I know there's no way of compelling a person to acknowledge one's existence, and I wouldn't want to, but I still find it puzzling and weird.

I actually saw a rumour not long ago on here that one of these members had in fact died. Hopefully that's just a rumour and I haven't seen it confirmed elsewhere, but if it is true then obviously there will never be any future interaction with that particular member.

Probably most or even all members have had a similar experience, so maybe I shouldn't let it get to me.

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