How much should you care about what others think

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For me, it depends what the matter is and whether its something I put in a lot of thought into or not. I used to care a lot about what other people think about me, but I didnt really do much about it. Today I only care about what others think about me only if their thoughts can cause me a serious problem, which isnt the case most of the time, especially if its not someone I know. I think if its a friend or family, it can be a problem more than if it was some random guy on the streets.

I seem to worry more about what strangers on the street think of me, for some reason. I just have this weird fear of showing myself up. My social anxiety levels are rather high when out in public. It's like I can physically feel other people's judgement against me. When I'm around family, friends, colleagues, etc, I can be myself a bit more, say silly things, relax, enjoy myself, etc. But around strangers or people I don't know very well, I am very self-conscious. Sometimes Aspies here criticise me about this, saying things like "who cares what strangers think?", "you'll never see them again", "they'll forget what you did", etc etc. But when I'm in public or around people I don't know, I have a natural desire to blend in.

I don't have a care in the world what other people think of me.

The only people whose thoughts matter to me are my wife, my boss, the cops, my lawyers, the judge, and the jury.

I like to make a good impression. I don't always do so. I think of why I don't make a good impression.

If it is something having to do with the "finer points of etiquette"---if I embarrass somebody because I can't distinguish the salad fork from the meat fork----then I don't give two craps about their "impression" of me.

Only a small number of people - either the ones I love or those who can have an influence on my life.

It matters to me what my family and friends think of me.

I know I ought to care what others think, but unless they are people I know well, it's hard to remember to.

It's threads like this that make me question my ASD. It seems that most Aspies seem to not care how they look in public or in social situations, or they're not emotionally affected by other people's judgement, or have the guts to be independent instead of blending in.
I'm not criticising, though.
I'm just saying that why are what people outside of family think of me so important to me? Is that my inner NT trying to come out?

Most people don't think at all, so I can't care about something that isn't there.

If I really cared what others thought of me I would of committed suicide when I was in elementary skew for being too ret*d & disabled to deserve to live. My peers really hated my guts & believed the world would be better off without me. I do care a little about what others think of me but I mostly care about how it would affect the way others treat me. I don't wanna be killed cuz I'm thought to be dangerous, I don't wanna be committed to a mental institution cuz I'm thought to be crazy, I don't want my girlfriend to dump me, I don't want people to give me bad service when I go to various establishments, ect.

I only care to a point if their thoughts are going to affect me.

I'm at about 7/100

It depends on who they are and their ability to negatively effect my life.