Do You Find You Keep Trying To Correct What You Say?

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Do you find that when you meet people that you are worrying what you say incase someone can read into what you have said and come to the wrong conclusion about what you said, and then you ober compensate by correcting yourself and you realize the other person has not thought the wrong thing bug now does... So you then doubly try to over compensate to correct the second thing and end up in a mess and just leave quick incase you end up saying something else!

Uhmmm. I do!

Yes, I do this even with people I'm very close to for fear of offending. I saw one of my two closer friends recently, we live quite far apart and I hadn't seen him in a while. I know how he feels about most subjects so when I was expressing my thoughts on some subjects it kept occurring to me every time I paused that what I just said might be taken to mean this offensive thing, which would lead to this offensive misinterpretation, and so on, so I kept clarifying what I meant. I think, from what he would say to me in reply, that he understood I meant nothing offensive the first time, so if anything it dug me further into a hole, but oh well. I don't know 100% why this is, except maybe a history of offending people with what I say and feeling mortified of doing it again by accident, so I over-correct.

I came across a situation the other day like that when having a tyre changed on my car where I am not sure what to say.

No.

I have the advantage of being quite good with words tbf. And precise in what I say, even beyond what a lot of NTs are.

If people don't like it, that's their problem.

I guess what I do is a bit different. Sometimes I start to say something but then start over because I thought of a better way to say it, and also sometimes my mouth doesn’t quite get what my brain is trying to tell it to say (for example I’ll think “cattail” but say “cocktail”), and when I hear that happen, or when I stumble on the pronunciation of something, I’ll go back to correct myself. But I don’t usually get hung up on how the way I phrased something or the tone I used might be misinterpreted until after the conversation, when I’m going back over it in my head and finding all my errors, and then instead of over-explaining, I just mentally beat myself up over it.

I do this all the time and it just confuses people. I'll notice I'm doing it and try to stop but I'm also like, but, what if they're actually offended? Gotta explain/correct myself more now.

Google “Slip Mahoney.”

I do.

I'm one of those who always feel the usage of words as unnatural and limiting.

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