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27 Jul 2022, 6:52 am

An autistic guy whom I know at a day program I work sometimes leaves his computer group. He goes every Tuesday. How do I get him to stop?



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27 Jul 2022, 7:19 am

ivyeight6 wrote:
An autistic guy whom I know at a day program I work sometimes leaves his computer group. He goes every Tuesday. How do I get him to stop?
You do not, unless you are his supervisor.



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27 Jul 2022, 7:21 am

Where does he go?



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27 Jul 2022, 7:24 am

He either goes to the bathroom or talk to someone.



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27 Jul 2022, 7:42 am

Is he the same guy that leaves the group to talk to a particular woman from some other thread somewhere? I think going to the bathroom is not a problem. We all do that. Leaving the group to talk to someone else is. If he doesn't listen to you, you may need to consult his parents/family/support person etc.



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27 Jul 2022, 8:04 am

What does that mean?



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27 Jul 2022, 8:07 am

What does this have to do with making friends?


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27 Jul 2022, 8:08 am

Well. I meant leaving his group.



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27 Jul 2022, 8:12 am

Is the purpose of the group to teach people how to use computers? Is his attendance voluntary?


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27 Jul 2022, 8:16 am

ivyeight6 wrote:
He either goes to the bathroom or talk to someone.
Are you responsible for his actions?



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27 Jul 2022, 8:17 am

No.



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27 Jul 2022, 8:25 am

ivyeight6 wrote:
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Are you responsible for his actions?
No.
Do his actions cause you pain or injury in any way?



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27 Jul 2022, 8:31 am

One can try to get people to participate in groups more by making them more engaging.


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27 Jul 2022, 8:46 am

As long as he doesn’t bother anyone, and especially as long as attendance in the group is not mandatory, you have no right to restrict his movements.

What is your motivation for seeking to keep this guy in the computer group?



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27 Jul 2022, 9:36 am

That’s the day he’s assigned to.



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27 Jul 2022, 10:07 am

Do you have contact with this person's social worker?