If I have a nice house, will I get more social acceptance?

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It wouldn't have cameras. I think you were thinking of CCTV. CRT is the old tube TV.

Retro stuff is becoming pretty popular honestly.

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It's also financially preferable. Rent is a money pit. A home that is owned is also a source of investment. For many families it's the major investment along with superannuation.

However, I think the OP is focusing on a home as a wife-magnet.

Retro is cool.

Sorry I thought you specifically said cameras.
I must be going blind. I do need new glasses.

I agree retro is cool.
Why then would you hide this basement tech-room?

My son has all sorts of old gaming systems that he gets on eBay.
His gf is really into it too.

Just don't want it in the way of things.

If the basement is unfinished, i'll convert half to unfinished storage and half to finished living area. There would be a separate room with door for the retro room.

I agree.
It gives me the impression he thinks women are financially needy or somehow less successful.

In my opinion as a woman, I don't give a rat's ass how much a person makes.
In fact I've said many times I'm more stressed out by people with money than without.

The only reason I'd want someone with a job / possible home is to show they're dependable.
Dependable people make good partners / parents for the family to be more stable.
That's just one example.
I've dated homeless people, unemployed people, and wealthy people.
All that really matters is if the person has integrity and treats all people with kindness.

this is all contextual, and the data suggest young women are basically drawn toward young men who are either in a similar Socioeconomic background to themselves or better. However I accept individual lived experience can differ from the norm.

I think he is playing percentages but his language suggests some influence from red-pill philosophy.

Its a big investment to make for a social foot in the door.
I wouldn't be doing it solely for the attraction of future "friends", but it probably wouldn't hurt to invest in property first and foremost for your own benefit.

A lot of that mentality carried forward from generations when women weren't allowed to work outside the home and they were literally dependent on men for putting a roof over their head. The saying "Diamonds are a girl's best friend" doesn't mean that we actually love diamonds. If you think about it diamonds are pretty boring like a hunk of glass or mirror. They aren't a pretty colour and aren't particularly interesting. The reason they became women's best friends was because they represented the security of a man / marriage, and all women know diamonds can be sold for their intrinsic value if the man happens to dart. I sold my engagement ring and wedding ring to feed my kids.

Sorry if that's kind of off-topic but that's why women hoped to find someone with a similar background or slightly better. Their personal financial worth was NIL except what was provided to them by the laws of coverture from other men (e.g., their fathers). A woman with no education, no voice to vote, and no job prospects relied on stable men not just to feed and house them but so their future children might build generational wealth to have better prospects than either parent. In that respect most women married with their unborn children's future in mind more than their own.

I knew one very wealthy young woman who was single until her 40s because she wanted a man with equal wealth. She turned down a few doctors and an anesthetist but finally married a lawyer from The Hague. Why? Was she vain? Did she want or need his money? No. She said very honestly it's because she didn't want her standard of living to change from what she was used to. It didn't need to improve, but she wanted someone who enjoyed travel and philanthropy as much as she did. She had dated someone who couldn't afford cable TV and although she didn't care about the financial aspect, it wasn't interesting for her to be in a relationship with someone who didn't watch TV. Nor did she want to be his financial provider if they ever got married.

Yes everyone will have different experiences but I can honestly say I've never known a woman who wanted to "marry up" for money alone. It would be especially hard for autistic women who are less likely to want all the trappings of money like travel, social events, and fancy attire. My guy has a lot of money. I didn't know that when I met him or I likely would have been scared away. It's not my vibe at all. I like the fact he lives very modestly and doesn't like doing fancy things. We're both very introverted and prefer being home with our pets.

It also means that if the neighbors don't like you, or the other way around, it can be an absolute pain to move.

I'd like to buy the most expensive house I can get approved for.

No.
No. (It could put women off if someone was financially struggling, severely, because they might worry about having to support him, but having a lot of money will not attract the best kind of woman at all.)

I wouldnt do that if I were having a new house built as there are always delays and unexpected problems with new construction. It is best to have contingency funds available for new construction. That is also true of home repair, unless you spend a premium for someone with a reputation for doing stuff right the first time on time. Mistakes and delays are to be expected when choosing someone based on the low cost of their bid to do the work.

I want nice things in general because I am trying to compensate for being an autistic loser. Everything is 3x harder for me to do. That’s why I want to surround myself with nice things to feel better about myself.