Moving to a Different State

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My sister texts me, she thinking of moving to Oregon with her son, they want me to go with them. This is CRAZY! I do not want to move to Oregon. My sister CANNOT MAKE UP HER MIND, first she don't want help me toooo much, now she might want me & her son to live with her, again, it won't work! I DON'T WANT LIVE with her or near her. I feel free of my sister controlling things & be bossy, this is the first time I feel free in almost 12 years.

Isn't living with your sister better than living in the group home you hate? Or is living with your sister even worse than that?

Oh My , its too bad that your sister was so aweful to you before ...And am not sure if you still are dealing with
the group home . Or have posdibilities of getting out on your own with some type of support from some type of State sponsored stuff. But Oregon is a nice climate . And maybe she needs your money you recieve to ve able to afford to move there? And maybe Oregon might have a better support system for soneone in your situation? And , if you look it up , you might find a support system ( State rehab . department ?) there that might be better for you to get to a better place , to move out from your sister, after you have been there for a while . Planning ahead might be good ?
But after the way your sister did you in the past, I could not blame you for not wanting to go through that mess again.
Hope you can get that sorted out . Goid Luck

What's up with your sister? I had one I cut off like 3 times now from her just being an unnecessarily petty pain in the neck, so I can understand not going and wanting to find somewhere else.

What part of Oregon?

Yeah but at least you'll be away from the home kitty and while you're there you can start planning your next move

Since I have Autism, I CANNOT HANDLE her being controlling, bossy, being selfish, being sooooooooo stubborn & ordering me around, I can get a very bad reaction to her helping me, cuz she can help me the wrong way, she thinks she knows better, she hardly ask me what I want. I was going live near her where she lives, I changed my mind about living near her, cuz I COULD NOT take her controlling things, where I would live, picking out my apartment & getting me a caregiver, I don't want her controlling things again. In the past a few times, I almost stopped breathing cuz of her. My dad told me he would help me move out, he told me his MANY broken promises to me that he will move me when he get money, that was in February, he don't care what happening to me, he was NEVER a great father, my mom was the BETTER parent. She still looking out for me by giving me more money, I'm getting her Social Security money, NO MORE SSI

If I move to Oregon, I will be stuck there, I will not know anyone, I won't know what to do. I WON'T get out of one nightmare & get into another nightmare, I lived with my sister for almost 2 years after we lost our mom.

Yeah it's a bit of a tricky situation isn't it

I dunno Kitty

Oh dear, it sounds like you have the choice of two bad options?

I am glad that you are happy with your new income situation.

Does that mean that your off the 2,000 dollar rule now since you are off of SSI??? If so thats great news and you could maybe start having assets greater than 2,000 dollars. Her house her rules though so you will need to go by your sister's rules as long as you live with her.

Do you have any chance of living on your own yet, maybe in sheltered accommodation? If not then I guess you have a tough choice to make. Who is the worst control freak, the care home or your sister?

Could you maybe get Section 8?

I would say my sister is the BIGGER ONE, she caused me to stopped breathing a few times in the past & she made me very vert depressed too.

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Sounds like the care home would be the lesser of two evils then. Still not great of course. Hope you find a third way that's better than that. Maybe something will turn up.

She's not in a care home is she

Is it a care home kitty or is it like a shared house type thing

I don't have Social Security now, I'm still on SSI. I want to sign up on Social Security site, but I'm having trouble signing up.