ToughDiamond wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Yes....its one of the reasons why I cant ever fully trust my parents again....I know they thought it was "innocent" lie but they still lied to me.
I believed it for a little while, though I don't think they called it a tooth fairy, it was just "the fairies." I'd put a tooth under the pillow and in the morning there'd be a sixpence.
I don't think finding that it was a lie especially made me distrust my parents. I remember asking my dad when I was about 9 if there was really any such thing as Father Christmas, and he looked uncomfortable and wouldn't answer. So I suspected he was being cagey because Santa didn't exist and Dad didn't want to lie in answer to a point-blank question like that, and I gradually figured out that I was right, that these amazing stories about magic and stuff aren't usually true. I think I just saw such lies as the kind of things the Big People sometimes tell kids.
I think it's healthy to grow somewhat suspicious of what authority figures say anyway or what anybody says, because they don't necessarily have your best interests at heart, and they don't necessarily even understand what your best interests might be. As long as you trust your own judgement, there's often no need to particularly believe anybody. It doesn't always mean they're bad people, they might be trying to protect you or they might just be passing on false ideas that they themselves believed. And imagine how vulnerable a person would be if they were incapable of ever lying.
"Poor girl", she thought it was a sin to lie, and that all older persons ,had only got to be a big persons ,because they did not lie. Otherwise they would have gone to hell. That what I was taught. And I trusted that . And Sooo many different people took advantage of my naivete almost up to my 16 th birthday....When you realize, later that ,it was a lie, in and of itself. As I got to be realizing what was what...The bitterness and disillusionment was monumental for me. Welcome to institutional Catholicism . Only thing that got me through it at that time ,was a book by Norman Vincent Peele,
" The Power of Positive Thinking" . Add Asperger's and it made for a easy target
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