Putdowns Directed At Other, More Relevent To You

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Do you get hear putdown directed at others but have more relevance to you.

In the other office there is new administrator, she is a bit in your face and direct, she is pleasant enough though. She is 31 and still single, not married or anything.

One of my workmates said it is pretty weird that she should be single at her age, their must be something wrong (with her). There is where I interrupted and said how about me I am single at 35. I have never had a serious relationship, never had anyone say I love you. So simple logic dictate that comment was directed at me more then her.

Maybe it was a just a generalized statement? I'm not sure though, I never know where those kind of statements are directed. Personally, I find it unprofessional to make that kind of statement at work. I don't see how her relationship status or yours is anyone's business.

you are male. that's supposed to be different. for example, you have time to have children of your own, but her clock is ticking louder every day...

We tend to take things personally. I can't come up with a specific example, but I've been in the situation where someone makes a not-so-pleasant remark about someone...and I fit the bill too.

yeah, i think that type of comment is very gossipy in nature, and also unprofessional and rude. This is a perfect example of supposed social norms, and "normal" people pointing out "odd" people who dont do what everyone else does. heaven forbid we do things at our own pace, and decide if or when we will get married, or date, or whatever... a lot of self help books do the same thing; explain how to be "normal" when there really is no such thing as "normal" it's just another smoke screen for peer pressuring and narcissism. In my humble opinion, when NTs act out like that, they are trying to be "normal" but really are being weird. and when they point out the "weird" they are really just jealous of someone who dares to be different...

thanks for listen to me ramble!

mike george

my aspie music page:

http://www.myspace.com/mikegeorgemusic

there is actually, it's called average...

the average number of (56, 67, 1, 70, 50) is 68

simple case of ppl not thinking b4 speaking... happens all the time

Are you sure? Is average the arithmetic mean, mode or median?

Probably a mean, if you look at his post....

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/normal

2. serving to establish a standard.

standards in humans? a mere fallacy; our uniqueness is more of a standard, than our similarities. this is only my opinion, but definitely not a standard. just my two cents...

my aspie music:

http://www.myspace.com/mikegeorgemusic

Last edited by mikegee on 13 Nov 2007, 10:22 am, edited 1 time in total.

why do you have to be taking it so literally?

we were talking about people not numbers. i am using the word average to mean people who fall at the center of a bell-shaped curve.

and you, there was nothing mean about it... mean is to be joking about my post instead of thinking a bit about how it can be meant...