i'm turning into that man i saw who gave the speech at my friend's mom's funeral.. who was not nice.. at all..
i felt bad for him then (pity) but also annoyed and angry later when i learned from XH (after glimpsing and then asking) that the arbitrary "men's section"he had was actually for everyone and was so spacious and empty unnecessarily..
when he had squished all the grieving ladies into a crowded classroom in the basement!!
maybe he was stupid and didn't realize, but the men could have looked at the place we were being sent to, and said something, surely?!
and spoken disparagingly/rudely (which made me angry, too)
(like my old Lawyer except that man was worse---
since he was more educated, and had everything in the world he wanted -
to act that way towards someone paying him a ton too--
this was just a poor uneducated man in cheap, worn-out clothes ...
whose parents probably shoved him into a religious role since they could afford no further education for him)
to some polite ladies who were asking for things like,
whether there was a water cooler so they could get water for their grandma, or whether they could get some chairs for the elderly ladies to sit on..
i guess he was stressed.. just 1 person having to do everything without assistance, basically..(like me with my kids, except nurse for elder for a few hours a day now)..
but he could have (if he were less stressed or a leader type ):
assigned roles to different younger relatives (teenage or 20s ) to help him out in aspects..
but i think they could have also volunteered and offered...
but ya.. i think i'm basically him now.
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