I was thinking about this a lot the last week... I automatically dislike people who feel so sorry for themselves that they're constantly negative about everything, but they ask for help and when you offer it they have all these reasons why your help won't work.
If someone is actually looking for help or a change and they haven't tried something someone else suggests, then they shouldn't start talking about why it won't work. I feel like that's just a cop out, and asking for help was a way to pat themselves on the back like "It's ok, at least I tried" even though they really didn't.
Life isn't supposed to be easy or fair, it's not either of those things for anyone, and everybody has problems and things that hold them down or back in some area(s) of their life. I'd rather have my problems than someone else's.
Maybe it makes me mean, maybe I lack sufficient empathy, maybe I'm a bad person somehow. I don't know. I'm more than happy to help people who really want help, and I don't like seeing others suffer. But I don't have time for self pity.