HELP! I THINK IM GAY!! ! please reply!

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it started when i entered secondry school...

i have became friends with this boy named scott, and weird things started happening...
i started wanting to hug him, then it turned to wanting to kiss him, and i had a dream (you know what happens!)
i really have a crush on him, but i feel bad for it. i don't want to tell him my feelings, because he wil stop being friend with me and i'll be a laughing stock...

does this make me gay? plus, ive been getting these feelings around other close male friends...


im beginning to like the idea of being gay and i think i should tell my mum and dad about it. (they are supportive of me and say i can be gay if i want to although i haven't came out to them yet...)



(no hate mail please, only advice, i really need it)

-a very panicy kris

If your mum and dad are supportive, you should go to them and explain these feelings.
If this is not easy for you to do, perhaps there is a youth support group you can go to?

I'm not sure how old you are, but it has been said many times that young kids explore their sexuality which may include seemingly homosexual tendencies.
Basically, you may be very curious about the attraction you are having to this other boy, but it does not necessarily mean you are gay.

You seem to have an open mind regarding homosexuality and I think that is a good thing.
Not being afraid of it can help you work through your feelings.

People can form emotional attachments to others of their same gender or sex, for various reasons.

Find someone trustworthy you can talk to in person, take your time in dealing with these feelings, and hopefully you will not agonize over all this too much while you are still so young.

good for you! Embrace it! Hey, if you like guys that's great! Don't let any socio-stigmas hold you back!

If you find that you like chicks too, that's also cool.

I'm 60/40 gay. 40% gay, 60% str8.

you go!

Ok, let's see if we can figure out what your orientation is.

Look at this for 15 seconds.



Do you like?

If you do like, then you are probably bi. If you don't like, then you are probably gay.

Knowing your exact orientation should be helpful.

I like the one at 12 noon

Remember, it's okay to be gay. Yes there's sum ignorant people out there just like they are about Asperger's. If your parents love you unconditionally, which they should then I would tell them. If it were me I wouldn't tell my friend unless I felt confident with that person. Good that you recognise this. Sum people destroy their lives trying to be something they're not. Good Luck.

daylight

to admit wat others wont is 1 of the msot brave things u cud ever do

All I can say is to not be afraid to confess your feelings. You shouldn't regret anything. For example, I had a crush on a girl back in high school and I wanted to tell her how I felt so bad, but I didn't. Part of it was because we were taking different classes and were always far apart. But, I loved her and I regret not telling her what was going on with me.

I have no idea of how old you may be, however if your a teenager, your sexual orientation can vacillate between straight, gay, and points in between for a while until you figure out what you are.

If you're gay that's cool, but be careful as other people in your age group may take offence with you for that. This is because they may also have issues with their sexual orientation, and their sexual orientation being at odds with what they expected, as well as also in part due to their sexual orientation being at odds with what still many parts of society deems 'normal' or 'proper'. I don't mean to scare you, but hopefully your parents are enlightened enough to the point where your possible/likely sexual orientation is not an issue with them.

At the same time, people who you consider yourself freinds with may reject you. It may seem hard, but this is a learning process, as you will be learning that these people really never were your freinds to begin with. --Move on, as difficult as that may seem, and you will eventually be stronger because of it.

Best of luck to you.

Not sure what advice I can give you here. If you don't know if you are gay then how on earth should I know? How should anyone know?
I will tell you that while there are some judgemental idiots out there, they are a minority. A very VERY loud mouthed minority that one should try to ignore if at all possible.

Always be honest with yourself, and with those you trust, that is the best advice I can give... oh and DON'T PANIC! (Douglas Adams gives the best advice)

Actually, in your case it might be a win-win scenario to come out to your classmates. If they start picking on you, you can use it as an excuse to get out of this special school you hate so much.

well you may be bi
well actually everyone is somewhat bi

once in everyone's life they feel attraction or something to their own gender
not a bad thing
gives you more options

((((((Kris))))) Many of my friends are gay or bi. They are great people.