On giving too much

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Don't buy people inappropriately expensive gifts. Overgifting can be worse than undergifting.

Someone gave me something that cost a fortune, and I immediately felt the added weight of the new possession. I honestly would have felt a lot better if they had given me nothing.

Some people just don't understand simplicity. I'd have been content with something small or even with nothing.

When you give too much, you give debt. You just make the recipient feel like an a**hole. And they have no recourse. They can't get mad at you, because then they'll just look like an ungrateful brat. It's a very uncomfortable position to put someone in.

Don't overgift. Speaking at least for myself, simplicity is always better.

i remember working with something who was given a watch by a client. he felt uncomfortable because the watch costed something like $2000.

what did that person give you?

$500 camera plus an extra $100 zoom lens...

Sorry you have it this way - have heard others
also mentioning overgiving - i might screw up
there some times because if i overhear someone
talking about what they want then i give them
that, be it $1 or $500, just as an example. But
i would never expect to automatically get something
in the same price range from them, theres no
connection there for me.

At the same time i`m not very comfortable with
excepting gifts, but its not so much the price, i`m
just not comfortable with it so i understand those
who feel like its too much. And of course if they feel
they have to give something equal back then it
can make alot of stress, out of something that
was ment as a fun thing.

Very often the greatest gifts are those that cost
nothing or very little, when theres some thought
in it, something personal thats always nice to
get - so i feel like the price shouldn`t be so important,
its the thought behind it.

Guess some people can use the gift thing and show
off or something, thats just annoying because then
the thought behind it is selfish, its a gift to themselfes.
But lets say someone i care for wishes for a new tv
for christmas, just an example. Thats what that person
wants and it would make her/him very happy. So lets
say i get the tv, surprise. Its a big thing but its just a
thing, and that thing makes the person happy thats
kinda how i think, if that person really wanted a $5 t-shirt
i would get that, i kind of see those gifts as equal in value
even if theres a big price difference, its all about the
happiness when someone gets something they wish for
or like, i cant put a $ value on that, impossible -
we only live once and people should give each other
more gifts i think sometimes, expensive or cheap,
just something that makes recevier and giver happy

I was just given a 50$ hoodie by my best friend, when I had planned to spend around 20 on her, she said it was on sale but I immediately said when she handed it to me " I can't spend this much on you, I'm sorry, my budget doesn't allow for that kind of christmas this year" she said it's fine she just really wanted me to have it . That made me feel better.

""she just really wanted me to have it ""

thats the spirit i like

! ! 'ray!

getting spongebob drawn to life ds game for sister from toys r us,this dvd for her boyfriend [no idea what it is,shes just wrote it down],a coat for dad from george,a smoothie maker thing for mum,cats are getting things like a big bed to put next to their cat tree to stop them fighting over the cat tree,a new hunter collar from selfridges for biscuit,lots more cat stuff from there though they keep getting less cat stuff in every year and putting in more dog stuff.
wanted to get sam one of those flat fleecy beds that are electric and warm up.
and getting david [one of the residents am live with] a manchester united mug,with some diabetic chocolate from boots.
am getting cath something to do with coffee probably.

am buy lots for others out of routine every year,doesnt bother,dont think of self and what could buy anymore,dont really want much,apart from a proper remote control car if was able to cope with the sound,but can wait for that.