Sex and society

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I have this theory. Men will do almost anything for sex, that's just the way we're wired. The ones who weren't wired that way didn't breed as much, so to the extent that personality is influenced by genes, we're influenced towards doing anything for sex.

In our society, women get to decide who is going to have sex with them. Sometimes they may want someone they can't have, but that's by far the less likely scenario than a man wanting someone he can't have. So with some slight exceptions, women (and to a growing extent, girls) are the ones who decide what a man has to be/do in order to have sex. This collective power is huge, and basically defines society.

Up until fairly recently, the structure of society meant that it was unacceptable to have casual sex with strangers, or even sex before marriage in extreme cases. Obviously it happened, but you weren't allowed to discuss it. This meant that in order to get sex, a man almost had to get married, and in order to get married, he had to be good marriage material - sensible, reliable, hard working in order to provide for a family, etc.

This is no longer the case. Casual sex with people who you met recently is now not merely acceptable, it's practically expected! Some people would consider that there's something wrong with you if you're not out "scoring" every weekend. So what kind of behaviour are today's women and girls rewarding?

Discuss.

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I had it with men's theories It's not all about sex. It's about love and every one needs some one. Also most adults have a physical need and strong desire for sex - Men and women. Just blame it on the womans p****. I'm sick of this and I'm signing off.

Cman I don't get you're point. Casual sex is pretty much the norm today so what exactly are you trying to say? Is it good or bad or indifferent and I'm not even sure the person who posts as BellaDonna is a woman so I can't properly address her/his reply yet.

(BellaDonna is a woman.)

I don't really get the point either, so I can't comment yet.

I feel it's bad, it's a sign of society's declining morals.

I agree wholeheartedly with Metalwolf. Sex, I suppose ( I wouldn't know for sure, I'm not a man) is most guys' main goal, whereas a woman's (or at least, my) goal is love. Not just affectionate attachment or a short-term, hot-and-heavy sex affair, but love. And I must say I disapprove completely of all this promiscuous nonsense. I tend to take after my grandmother when it comes to these things, meaning I believe in modesty, chivalry, and leaving something to the imagination. Don't get me wrong; I believe sex is a wholly natural and healthy part of life, but I think there should be a strong, definite, preferably long-term commitment involved. I'm Pagan, so I don't hold completely to the "No-sex-before-marriage" thing that the Christian (or at least, the Catholic) Church preaches. However, it doesn't mean I'm a heathen hussy. Sex is an intimate, chemically bonding experience, and should be shared carefully and with someone who deserves it.

Exhibit B

Referring to my last post, "Someone who deserves it" would refer to a man with whom one is in a long-term courtship and in which both parties have professed emotional commitment to each other. Someone who displays the preferred qualities set forth by the opposite party's preferences, and with whom a mutual consent has been reached. i.e. Layman's terms: I'm into you, you're into me, gee willickers I think you're swell, and you think I'm just peachy keen, and these sentiments have been thus for a while now; let's do it.

Lot of men are pigs. If you're pretty, most of them are taking you out because they want your body. Here is a cool test for them, make them wait six months before you give it to them. If they leave, then well well well it was all they were after. I made my bf wait six months because he was always asking for it and always wanting it so I decided to wait six months to make sure we still be together then. Plus I wanted to take it slow.

If they ask for it on the first date, run. That was why they took you out. They might not take out again anyway because they didn't get what they wanted.
If they follow you into your home and refuse to leave, don't ever go out with them again. I learned that from my mother.

Here’s what I could never understand about casual sex. First let me ask everyone who has had casual sex reading this two questions and please do not continue to read the rest of my reply until you have answered them. You do not have to write the answer to the first question for all to read but please try to write the answer to the second question. Please think very carefully before answering each question.
1. What thought goes through your mind when you are having sex with someone and have an orgasm?
2. Is this thought disparate from your thoughts the next day and if so how do you reconcile these dichotomous contradictory polar views?

As for me, I have never been able to reconcile the two and avoid casual sex like castor oil- or a very unpleasant experience for those too young to know what that is.