Should I stop caring?

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I'm sure everyone knows how I've been lately since my wife left me and before, so my question is that of the title. Should I stop caring? I really do love Jackie and I really am sorry I hurt her feelings, but despite every way in which I've tried to make things right she won't respond. Should I just give up or should I keep hoping that she'll forgive me? I don't want to give up, but what can I do? I'm back to how I was before her employer fired her, but she doesn't want anything to do with me now. I want us to stay married, but there's nothing I can do. I'm helpless. I almost wish we did flee the country when Jackie was about to be sued, even though we'd be technical criminals at least we'd still be together. I just want Jackie back, but she doesn't seem to want me back. I just want things back the way they were: Jackie and me together again, loving to spend time with each other again.

I don't want to stop caring, I just want Jackie to come back home and everything will be okay again. What am I supposed to do though? How can I help fix us? I'm at a loss and it all seems so hopeless. Everything I do just pushes my wife away further and if I get frustrated with how I'm being treated then it just would hurt Jackie worse and make things worse again.

I suppose it would be better if you stopped caring, but one can't just turn off feelings like a lamp. I'm sorry you're going through this. There isn't much you an do if she doesn't want anything to do with you, I'm afraid. You just have to back off and prepare for the cold reality that the relationship is over.

Yeah, IAAP, you're just gonna have to move-on. I'm so terribly, TERRIBLY sorry you're going-through this----but, with some women, the more you go toward them, the more they block you----PLUS, you're seeming a little pathetic, right now, and that's anything but attractive. Sometimes, the more you back-off, the more the woman will come to YOU----it's like some kind of "rule" of nature, or something.

sometimes in these cases, one has to put distance between the parties for an extended period, maybe a few months or even a few years. if the love is still there it will recover. if not, one should in the meantime prepare a "new normal."

I would really not like a new normal or a new anything or anyone though, as pathetic as it may sound. I wish I could just help her to forgive me somehow, but I can't do anything and she wont even speak with me and let us work on repairing ourselves. The silent treatment really hurts.

time will heal. albeit slowly.