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11 May 2009, 1:28 am

Im A Prob guy with OCD, ADHD, & ASD. Ive loved & Only Lost. I cant think of what I do have because ive got nothing that matters to me and nothing to to lose I whander why I try to love when im so empty I dont like people to take pitty on me or try to like me because they pitty me it feels nice but hurts worse. I have never been beyond holding hands because it ends before anything els happens.
Im very down at the moment cause its happend again.

I wish I was Dead I cant take this crap anymore ive had it with life i cant stand myself and everything is colapsing on me



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11 May 2009, 4:13 pm

Sorry pal, I just don't figure why Aspies pursue romantic relationships in the first place. Why not just find some friends to hang out with? Friendships are hard enough for us any way, why not just give up on romance?


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11 May 2009, 6:54 pm

mikemmlj wrote:
Sorry pal, I just don't figure why Aspies pursue romantic relationships in the first place. Why not just find some friends to hang out with? Friendships are hard enough for us any way, why not just give up on romance?

I dont know im a slave to my emotions I get knocked down but i get up again I guess I like feeling Pain it feels better then numbness



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11 May 2009, 7:03 pm

From reading the topic of this thread, I surely hope that you are not serious about killing yourself and that it only reflects your state of mind. Life can be hell sometimes, but thinking of the positive side, there's so much.

Do you ever take walks in the forest?


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11 May 2009, 7:11 pm

khelben1979 wrote:
From reading the topic of this thread, I surely hope that you are not serious about killing yourself and that it only reflects your state of mind. Life can be hell sometimes, but thinking of the positive side, there's so much.

Do you ever take walks in the forest?


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11 May 2009, 8:42 pm

I know how you feel, only I have never even held hands.

I'm trying to do what mike said and give up on romance. A snow flake has a better chance of lasting in Hell than most aspie guys including myself have of finding romance.


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11 May 2009, 8:50 pm

the only thing i have left is one girl but theres another guy i dont like the thought of him winning but if it what she wants then so be it. she says dont get to attatched but how can i not ive never felt so alive. it kills me each day not being with her



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12 May 2009, 3:43 pm

I'm going through the exact same thing, there's a special girl I love and she loves my best friend, who doesn't give a s**t about her and just wants to use her. I realise it's best to let her go, I'm not good enough for her and I was destined from the day I was born to have a sad and lonely life. At least she'll have a great life. A few months back I was feeling the exact same as you, I was so depressed I literally started to go insane, I began acting weirder than usual and having even louder rants in my head than usual. I'm ok now :lol:

If you like this girl, and you have AS it's just best to give up, sorry to say. Then again, you seem like you still have well formed emotions so maybe you are capable of being in a relationship with someone. Blunted emotions makes that very difficult.



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12 May 2009, 4:17 pm

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If you like this girl, and you have AS it's just best to give up
Ok let me set this straight just because we have Autism dosnt mean give up dude I say this for everyone on this web site. so what we have all this s**t that comes with ASD but any normal guy that has the all the prob that ASD gives you but dosnt have it can get a girl! why do you all think we are such losers ASD should be an advantage not a reson to give up so "NO I WILL NOT GIVE UP I WILL FIGHT THE WAR OF LOVE TILL I WIN" i hope you all do the same



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12 May 2009, 6:53 pm

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why do you all think we are such losers ASD should be an advantage not a reson to give up


It is an advantage, just not in this type of situation :lol:
And tbh I havn't given up, that was sh***y advice. Just because I'm not good enough doesn't mean I'm not going to try :lol:
and good luck to you too



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12 May 2009, 7:00 pm

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why do you all think we are such losers ASD should be an advantage not a reson to give up


It is an advantage, just not in this type of situation :lol:
And tbh I havn't given up, that was sh***y advice. Just because I'm not good enough doesn't mean I'm not going to try :lol:
and good luck to you too
Ty Fight the good fight we will find true love someway somehow nomatter how much it takes



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12 May 2009, 7:17 pm

Don't give up dude.

You will find someone who understands you, and who you want to be with. It's a big old diverse world. Chances are there's a woman who will see past your ASD and love you for who you are, though obviously you can't 'zoom in' and find such a person.


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12 May 2009, 7:21 pm

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12 May 2009, 8:12 pm

I lost track of the number of times I have had to pick-up the pieces and start over from scratch. I don’t know if I have been lucky or if God is watching over me or if it’s because I have become wiser with each setback but life has become better with each new sequel. Don’t give up.