Girls online...really?

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Sometimes I can't always tell the difference between a straight girl and a lesbian girl on Facebook or other social media sites.

I know a few lesbians who are really lesbians and are in a happy relationship, and they put stuff like ''I love you hun xxxxx'' to their girlfriends on Facebook. But straight girls do that too. Once somebody sounded so much like they were physically in love with one of her friends that I had to go and check on her basic information to see if she was straight or not, and I found it said ''Interested in: Men'', although that sometimes doesn't always explain a lot but still.
Some of these conversations between girls sound more ''romantic'' than the conversations I have with my boyfriend (or as romantic ).

Why are a lot of girls so soppy about each other on Facebook? I know I sometimes put kisses when having an online conversation with a female friend of mine, but that's it really. I know girls don't mean it literally when they are talking like that to each other online, but it still confuses me.

It's also annoying the words girls use for each other, like ''beaut'', ''hun'', ''gorgeous'', all that sort of stuff. I'd sooner read guys stuff. I know guys put non-literal insults to each other sometimes, but I can understand that better than how some of these girls talk to each other online.

Anyone agree?

It bugs me too. I think the whole generic, affectionate nickname thing might be more an NT's game.

It must be a game. And they don't do it just online. I know some girls that kiss each other and pretend they are couple in real life although they are just friends and both have happy relationships with boyfriends.

^or bi or bi in denial.

It doesn't bother me, at all----but, I'm a seemingly rare Aspie, in that I'm very demonstrative, in words and physical affection.

I feel they MAY be doing it because it's more difficult to express yourself in writing, than in person; so, people are constantly thinking-up new / more ways to "show" affection for someone, through a computer screen----whereas, in PERSON, one can SEE facial expression, body movements, give actual hugs, etc.

One of the women I work for always calls me "hun" and puts a kiss in texts, and she calls me hun face to face. Some women are just affectionate verbally, or motherly. I used to shop at a store where the woman who ran it called everybody "Doll" and lovey.

I hate to pigeonhole, but it may be worth mentioning that, in my own observations and experience, a lot of the American women and girls I've known do a lot of verbal affection in the form of hunnybun, sweetie, darlin' etc, at least in the location where I lived. But then British women say a lot of "love," lovey, too.

I think even straight women may feel freer about using these terms of endearment to another straight woman because sometimes if they use them on a man it can be misconstrued as a come on unless the relationship is clear one way or another.

I also agree with Campin Cat, that in texts and Tweets and email the words are probably useful in warming up the "tone" of the text and making sure that warmth gets across, as texts and even forum board posts can come across as colder and harsher than the intention, and you have to "inject" warmth deliberately in order to convey that the content of the text or the Tweet is meant with a smile, a hug, a good mood and not the opposite.

I don't mind it when women use terms like these sincerely. It's better than being called a name or noticing they use the words on others but withhold them from me, hah!

It has been shown that heterosexual women are more fluid in sexuality than heterosexual men, though this may be different with people who have an abnormal neurology (such as asperger's).

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/12/fashi ... d=all&_r=0

Chinese women and girls walk arm and arm in the street. There's nothing sexual about that.

There's the "friendship" type of "love."

Women often feel that for each other. It's more a type of comradeship than of something amorous.

I'm indifferent to it but haven't given it enough thought to be bothered by it.

I get mistaken for being a lesbian a lot but its more because of my short hair and boyish ways. I HATE it when females call me honey. Also, I have been hit on my women at homeless shelters, telling me to be "gay for the stay." I'm like, please, I have nothing against homosexuality, but that doesn't mean I want to have sex with a woman. I have had female friends who kinda subtly hit on me every so often, testing the waters to see if I will make out with them yet. I hate it. I like guys! AAAARGHHH!

I often call people "honey" or "sweetie" IRL and online, but I think in my case it's more of a Southern thing. Calling people that around here isn't anything out of the ordinary, but the way it's meant is kinda dependent on one's tone. Depending on the tone of one's voice, it can either be used to show you care about someone or that they're being stupid. Unfortunately tone is harder to convey in writing.