A question of gender: Would you rather be male or female?

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I sometimes wonder how accurate some of these views regarding male to female differences are.

There seems to an awful lot of inaccurate stigmas attached to women even today.

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Even though I relate better to men, I would choose to stay a woman. I can't fathom what it would be like not being a woman. Also, my issues with crying outbursts would not go over well among my male peers.

I never got PMS until after I had been pregnant.

I've never given much thought to what my body looks like.

I've never intentionally starved myself.

I don't wear horribly uncomfortable and painful female garments; the way I dress is comfortable and androgynous.

I like men. All my friends are men. Most of my friends and lovers, throughout my whole life, have been men.

I've often had thoughts of the form "my life would be so much easier/better/more fulfilling if I had been a man", but at the end of the day I am still content being a woman. I don't really want to be a man, I just want to have the same opportunities that men have, especially career-wise. Periods don't bother me, I find them to be a kind of purifying experience. I love my womanly body and my curves.

Re: "it's easier for women to get laid. "
It's MUCH harder for a woman to find a sexual partner who satisfies her than for a man. All a man needs is 2 minutes of f**king to orgasm and be happy. For a woman it's about the entire body, it has to be an amazing erotic, passionate experience, which rarely happens since men are so selfish--in bed and outside it.

I have often been envious of men because they don't get pregnant, they don't get periods and they aren't expected to spend their lives looking 18 and being at least twenty pounds underweight. But most of the time I don't mind being female. I think I'm a bit more aggressive than the "average" woman, but I have a strong femenine side, too. It would look pretty weird if I were a man, with my collections of plushies and fairy posters on my bedroom walls.

I have an enormous collection of plushies- including Care Bears and Lazytown that are SO girly

Some days I feel all man, other days I'm a girly girl, and the rest of the time I'm an androgyne.

It's an endlessly interesting topic to me.

The current trend is to differentiate between gender expression, gender identity, and (inevitably) biological gender.

People who feel like their mind's gender is different from their body's gender might enjoy things typically associated with their body's gender, or androgyny. That's "gender expression".

For example, if you have a female body yet feel like you are cross-dressing when you wear a dress, and feel comfortable and confident in a suit, you might be an ftm.

Detailed example: "Alex" was born with a female body, has always felt like a boy, and started presenting himself as a guy socially as soon as he could (binding, packing, etc). When he goes off to college, he informs the school that he's transgendered and asks to be addressed with male pronouns. So at this point, his fellow students assume he's a regular guy. Then he starts taking testosterone (after a GID diagnosis and years of therapy) and it looks like he's going through puberty a bit late - as a guy. So his biological gender becomes male, in line with his social gender. And he legally changes his name and official gender. But for personal reasons, he may opt to get top surgery or to keep binding, and he probably won't get "bottom surgery" (see TG sites for why this is). Anyway, like a lot of people, Alex's interests run the gamut of the "gender expression" spectrum. He likes to play some sports, is into music, and philosophy, collects stuffed animals (which he thinks of as a quirky girlish interest), and wears women's clothing for fun on occasion. Basically, he's a guy who was born with a female body and is somewhat androgynous in terms of gender expression.

Hope that makes sense.

That makes perfect sense, actually 2 of my friends at college are TG, 1MFT and 1FTM. I'm male biologically, and I mentally feel female, though for now I'm fine still being considered male. I just started crossdressing which when I'm wearing my ankle length peasant skirt, stockings and maryjanes it instantly can cheer me up and relax me. I "love" all these idiots who believe that how your born is who you are, nature is probably the most inperfect force in existance. It screws up more often then all humans put together You're who your mind says you are not who your body thinks you should be!

I voted female and content. However, I would like women to have more status and self-esteem. Men thinking they are the centre of the universe warps everything.

Or being called frumpy, bitchy, man-haters if we don't.

I'm female but would rather be genderless - or, rather, I wish people would judge me by the person I am as opposed to how well I fit 'female' stereotypes.

I would much prefer to be genderless, I actually mentally see myself that way. I just happen to sit when I pee and caint see my feet for these bags of flesh stuck to my chest.

However, if I must pick a human gender, I'd probably prefer being male, as that means I would have less visible gender characteristics. It's more of a body issue than anything else, as I already am what I am in my own mind. I'm just me, and I wish other people would get that, not see boobs and go off the deep end.

That's the way I feel.

I get so sick of the female stereotypes. It's almost bad to be a female especially when reading people's opinions of women in this forum.

I put female/genderless but I don't know if that's it I just hate the whole binary gender thing and the people in the middle are 'deviating' somehow. The world would be so much more interesting without the two gender norm thing going on.

I am female, and when I was a kid I always wanted to be a boy, but now I don't really mind being a female. You don't look a silly when you cry, and you don't have to shave your face, and your voice doesn't break, and you can fancy really gorgeous men without being gay (obviously). I don't mind being a female.

The only thing is - you have to wear fashion, make-up, and have a good hairstyle to be a female, and when you're not interested in that, you totally miss out. At least males don't have to do much to look beautiful.

The minuses are periods, sexism, guys thinking it is easy to be a girl, unwanted attention, feeling the need to be extremely attractive (to an unreachable extent), and not being able to pee standing up I don't really know the pluses, but I do really enjoy being a girl. I wouldn't trade it.

The things I wouldn't like about being a guy: the way it seems like guys pressure their friends to do stuff like lose their virginity, and as a guy I would feel like sex would be more my responsibility than the girls...to make it pleasurable, I mean. And I envy how a lot of men only get better looking with age.