'Princess' and other tiresome names

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I got called "sweet heart" by some radom douchbag in a online facebook game a few weeks ago and it just tiped me over the deep end big time. Lucky it was one of the games were you get to kill the other guy... so he died a ton.. for 2 days. The game stoped letting me kill him lol or I'd be still kicking his can all over the place.

Yaarr..I hate being called Mah'am worse than i hate cutesy names..On the inside I feel so young..and that just make me feel like I must look really old. I get called it sometimes by these really young guys...usually in bands that play at my place...it raises my hackles a bit.

I have learned to embrace the 'ma'am', though. It really is to show you deference to your position at SHFL (after you get over the shock/angst you are no longer the sweet young thing ya' used to be') they are trying to be polite and grant you a measure of respect as the boss lady. Not a bad place to be, actually.

To quote one guy in a novel I read (what we all long for) (he was a black guy who embraced composing classical orcestrated music) "I am not your 'brotha'" (replace brotha with whatever name you want to stick in there).

Hate 'em. My boyfriend and I call each other these names as a way of teasing, since we both despise them.

I plead guilty to calling a stranger "Princess" when I saw her littering (tossing a water bottle and a used tissue over the side of the trail). I called out "Hey, Princess, you dropped something!" She was not pleased but I guess I can look intimidating, so she just mumbled "sorry..." If someone called me Princess, I would set them straight immediately. I was in Trash Fairy mode that day and admit that I was temporarily deranged.

I am "Sweetie" and he is "Mister" and that is the extent of it. Any more, and bones start breaking.

Our cats, however...

Ugh. I hate 'Princess'...to me it means someone who's ornamental and up on a pedestal. If a guy called me that I'd probably kick him in the nads. (Don't even get me started on people who put their little girls in - invariably pink - T-shirts that say 'Daddy's Little Princess'. Or cars with pink 'Princess On Board' stickers. Yuk, yuk, yuk.)

Also...'Precious?' The tattooist I was going to started calling me that recently, for reasons I'm not quite clear on, and I find it kind of icky. I'm now looking for someone else for different, rather more artistic reasons, but that really didn't help.

Hubby can call me what he likes, but he's hubby, and he knows better than to use the P word.

'Ma'am' is kind of interesting...the British don't tend to use it much, and I was fazed the first time an American used it to me. I'm used to it now (I work with them). I realize it's just being polite, like the way you say 'You're welcome' when someone thanks you. It's kind of cool when it seems like the British are becoming increasingly rude. On the other hand, if someone calls me 'ma'am' when they're treating me like poop, they will be very Britishly told where to get off.

I really hate being called "ma'am". It makes me feel like someone's grandmother. I've been getting called ma'am since I was 19 and it always makes me whirl around and want to punch whoever said it.

Then again, this one guy I work with insists on calling me "kiddo" and THAT'S really annoying. I think it's because he's 20 years older and only started calling me that since finding out my real age. He's trying to talk himself out of starting something, maybe?

trying to talk you out of being confident in your job, you mean! Subtle but degrading to have a co worker constantly emphasize your youth and from that your relative inexperience.

I had a woman 8 years older than me constantly call me "kid" and "kiddo" and I finally had to take her a side and ask her to stop. She was all apolgetic but she didn't think that something so 'friendly' was wrong, that she was being 'inclusive' and perhaps I was being a bit 'sensitive' So confronting them is always a problematic.

I hate such titles, too. They're derogatory.

If I had lived in the US, I wouldn't have minded "pumpkin" so much, though - since I like pumpkins and associate them with Halloween!

How I'd react would've depended on the person who said it, though. If he was a sleazeball, I'd tell him to stop calling me that, but if I felt certain that the guy who said it actually just ment to be sincerely friendly, maybe even caring, then I'd probably try to let it go or at the very least try to be nice about it.

I don't really feel strongly either way? o_o;; I don't think anyone's called me Princess (and it's really only used in an insulting way in most cases). I dislike "baby", though. And "honey".

My mom calls me Sunshine, though, and I'm fine with that, because she's not being sarcastic about it. I liked it enough that when I reached a thousand posts on a different forum, I made my goddess title be Goddess of Sunshine.

my boyfriend calls me "princess" as a joke, but that's mostly because my name means princess so...its kind of a moot point
i don't like being called princess but one of my friends says that every girl has a kind of princess mindset, whether its a high-matenance, stuck up kind of princess, or a stubborn, never-give-up, almost warrior-ish kind of princess...

My one friend used to call me Maam and Dear and Hun - they all made me vomit in my mouth (not literally but I did want to kick his teeth in). Equally infuriating was when during his "frat boy" phase he'd call me Man or Buddy, like "Hey man, what's up man? How's it goin' buddy?" He was incredibly patronising in general and his generic stock phrase names did not help that matter, especially when I told him time and time again that it was really annoying. Perhaps coming from a more genuine source I wouldn't mind them as much but nobody else has ever called me anything but my name and that's fine with me. Well except my one friend who calls me Lovertits

Ok, there seems to be a lot of people who don't like to be called by 'cute' names!

Although I quite like them, as my mum used to call me 'Lordship' back when I was a kid, and I liked it as it made me feel all nice and gooey inside! If I were a girl I most likely would have been called 'Princess' and felt the same way!

I can understand however, the reasons why many of you don't like those kinds of terms (as has been poited out by others)

However I must add that back when I was a kid I used to know a little girl (of about 8 or 9 years of age) who was VERY into the whole Princess lark, and I'll add that (now that's she's grown up) I told that she's got on very well in the real world.

I'll even add that she has AS, and that most of the other girls I know with AS can be very femaine.

Needless to say I get on with them well.

(I do know one however who isn't that way but that's another story)

I do surpose (as always) that it's up to your personal wish's and believes with regards this kind of thing, some like it others don't.

Now I'm going to have to set up my own poll to see if anyone LIKES to br treated like a princess/lord of the Mannor!

Goodbye Till Next Time.

I don't really like cutesy names. They're sort of like nails on a chalkboard to my ears. But I stopped getting those annoying compliments once I started wearing glasses when I was 5 so I don't ever have to put up with it anymore. Everyone just calls me by my first name.