AS women in a NT workplace

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Geeky boys definitely make for good colleagues. I've just started in the IT team of a small company who write medical reference books/software. My team is all male (except me), and the other women who work there are mainly doctors and pharmacists. I love it.

This is a great solution to the problem that I use often.. The only trouble with it seems to be that people now assume that I do nothing all the time.. It's almost laughable but quite annoying!! Just because I don't want to talk to you about something doesn't mean I do nothing!! ! It's hilarious.

I worked at a place years ago where I had to have lunch in the tearoom.. To avoid the awefull babies, food, stupid chit chat rubbish I used to sit in the corner and read a book. I don't think they liked me much.. LOL

I'm so glad I found this site and the fact that I may have AS because I can so relate. I've felt like an alien my whole life.. LOL

I recently came up for my annual review, and my supervisor told me that the peer-review that had been submitted for me was incredibly harsh, that I 'hated the job' and saw it 'only as a means to an end.' Since I only asked one person for a peer-review (the person with whom I thought I related the most), I know who it was that wrote the review. Normally they're anonymous. Apparently, though, he had similar comments from other co-workers; I guess a lot of people take the flat-affect aspie-face as dislike.

Next year I think I'll ask the ER staff for reviews, rather than my fellow labbies (we can ask anyone). The ER people seem to appreciate that I don't lose my head and get all emotional in extreme situations, whereas the lab people seem to think that being all emo about everything is appropriate.

I was wrong in my interpretation of co-workers before, but trying the *same* thing after a failure is only a set up for more failure.

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I always wonder why these people think I would care about who pop stars were dating or what sports team won

I am clueless on both counts and furthermore do not want to be enlightened on either subject

Wow that's a harsh peer review. I was suspended for 1 week from College then they "talked to my teachers one I barely knew said she had issues but I had a bright future THEN came the teacher I had known for 6months AND (I feel this student has crossed the teacher student line and needs a psychological evaluation before returning on campus.) TO THIS DAY I'm FLOORED by that statement it lead to me coming home and a friend joked around a threat of killing (It was a JOKE me/friend were laughing it off!! !) That friend stabbed me in the back leading to suspended for a year. So much for that "friend" and overall that teacher I knew for 6months that I TRUSTED!! ! I CAN'T BELIEVE SHE REALLY FELT THAT WAY!! !! !! !! !! !!

Ladies, I recommend office work at a laboratory. There are a lot of people there that wont bother to make small talk and just rush around from task to task..

I used to work as a receptionist which meant I was like a deer trapped in headlights because people kept walking past my desk and I would have to say hello to each of them politely. It floored me every time and I would dread the people walking in the door or coming to my desk.

A few times I temped at a government lab at reception and it was so great, noone said hello to me or tried to talk to me. In the lunch room there were newspapers, science magazines, political magazines and lots of discussion on science and current events. I think that was probably an ideal aspie workplace.

Though I didnt realise at the time, I think there might have been a number of people with AS working there and they created such an environment.

Amen, this has happened to me about a million times. Women are evil to each other sometimes. They seem to live by the motto, 'keep your friends close and your enemies closer'. They are not so much friends, at work anyway, as they are keeping an eye on each other, keeping each other in tow'. I think female aspies must really suffer, I know I have. I do not care about their personal lives and I don't want them in mine, one bit. I am not 'after' them (I have encountered so many women in my life who think all lesbians just *must* be lusting after them...why they entertain such notions I will never understand). I don't care whom they are trying to impale on their way up the work ladder and I don't want to participate on it. I just want to be left alone to do my damn job, that is what we are paid for. Straight men, gay men, lesbians...I can handle (I exclude lesbians because someone who has women as partners is capable of seeing another women as something besides 'she who must be destroyed'.) And this is generalizing, of course, but the prototype female has horribly impacted my life, and that is the truth, because they won't and can't leave you alone. I have my theories as to why, all tribal and genetic imperatives, but therein lies the problem, in that environment, no one cares about deep universal truths and getting to the core of issues.

Before coming to college, I either worked with all men or a mixed bag of men and women. The one where i worked with both men and women was at a grocery store and I mostly worked with the guys since I stocked shelves...all the other women were running the tills and gossipping there.I got to avoid it most of the time by sticking to the aisles.

The job where I worked with ALL men was when I was drywalling....lots of fun...I got along with everyone...we all swore, told really crude jokes that would just make a regular gossippy NT woman fluster and run.If someone got mad, they yelled and swore and screamed and hollered and it was over with .Now Im in college and in a class full of NT women who gossip all the bloody time and do so behind everyone;s back...I just want to yell and swear at all of them.There is this one snobby one who actually told the chair of the program that she LIKES to gossip...The chair person responded by saying to her...."Well, how would you like it if they all turned around and gossipped behind YOUR back."That was PRICELESS. The program chair person I am speaking of is the chair of the legal assistant program at the college...Before such, she was a legal assistant herself for more than 30 to 40 years.

I have had similar problems. I just don't fit into an office full of women. I have learned that I am happier in a mostly male based environment. I currently work in the construction industry, so there are mostly men in my office. When I am looking for a job now I make sure that it is a mostly male based workplace because I've learned that I will be unhappy in an office full of women. I just don't understand the things that they are interested in. I'm not interested in celebrities. I don't know how I'm meant to react when someone brings in their new born baby. I think I seem cold to women. But I am interesting to converse with to men.

My cousin got fired from her job by that, by a coworker friend she trusted, for joking that she was going to 'kick her butt'. Ridiculous. She felt just as betrayed as you do.

I've been fired and laid off in most of my jobs so work has never been steady for me.

Other than that, there's the stress and ridicule I'm having to face everyday. Waiting was a complete nightmare. I had people constantly tell what horrible waiter I was and I was expected to the most simple thing most people take for granted which was smiling. I had a very hard time looking and acting friendly to most of the customers that came in. Before I was fired I begged them to either let me do cashier or dishes. They told me if I couldn't handle waiting then there was probably little chance I would have with the other two jobs. What was funny is I knew this girl who was constantly asking her way out of shifts and jobs. I guess some people have all the luck in the world when they not only got their looks but charms as well....


If this doesn't make sense I apologize,
I was half ranting and half asleep while typing this.

Ditto!! !