Those of you with kids: Did your birth differ from NT's ?

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My births were all c-sections, so my birthing experiences were all pretty routine. Pick a day and show up. A huge difference in the pregnancies with the aspie and NT kiddos though.

I find this thread interesting.

I'm not a mother - not even able to start TTC yet - but when the time comes it will be a natural home birth.
Of course not having been there I'm talking hypothetically, who knows what will happen.

I need to do my research however on what I can come to expect from a midwife during home birth - I'd kill for a doula, but there's no way we'd be able to afford one, I just have to hope for a reasonably good midwife. I don't think we have as many issues with unnecessary intervention here in the UK as seems to be in the US, although here we have a lack of midwives so potentially poor care as a result, generally I've had a lot of negative experiences within NHS staff when it comes to reproductive staff so I worry about a midwife trying to push me into something I don't want or not respecting my wishes/needs.

I never thought of birth as being something you did in hospital, besides with AS I'd find being in a strange place, with strange people, and various different stresses and sensory issues too stressful - babies health is the most important, if I need to go to hospital than so be it, but I don't think babies health is helped at all by a stressed-out anxious mommy with a traumatic birthing experience, particularly as I'd be at high risk of post-natal depression - thus home birth is more healthy for me and hopefully more healthy for mini-me too.

I will have a midwife - I'm under strict instructions to have a midwife present and I agree that more certainly for the first birth that having someone there just in case is important, as I say hopefully I'll get a good midwife and the birthing plan will clearly state to leave as much of it in my hands as possible - ideally the midwife would sit in a different room unless needed...although I don't think midwives would agree with this idea, not sure how much midwives will let you birth the child yourself. Ideally drug-free too, it's not about wanting to experience the whole thing or being brave, just the simple idea that if you're going to push it helps if you're still able to feel the pushing.

^ I had an epidural both times, and both times I could still feel the contractions and knew when to push.
The contractions just didn't hurt. They felt more like a muscle flexing. And I could still move my legs, though they felt a little numbish. It wasn't like being paralyzed or anything. I think epidurals are fabulous.

I had the worst labour process. It ruined my relationship with my mother in law, it still gives me nightmares, it created a fear of getting pregnant, somehow my life was saved that day.
At 11 in the morning i had slight pain and some reddish discharge so my husband insisted i go to the hospital. By the time i reached there my water bag burst
The doctor asked me whether my bag as burst but my mother in law told no...nothing of that sort
So the doctor put her fingers inside to check for dilation she announced that Csection is preferable.
From morning 11 to night 9 i kept pushing but nothing was happening then i asked for c-section
to which my mother in law said no.
she forcibly put some drip on my veins which gave me terrible pain. i couldnt lie on the bed i kept screaming and howling in terrible pain
she wont let me do c-section.
my condition worsened the pain made me feel dizzy.
my husband got quite worried at around 2 in the night he asked the doctor to perform csection
when i was operated the doctor said that baby is weighing 4.5kg i.e 9.92pounds.
both my life and baby's life was at risk if the baby had got stuck in the birth canal
the csection saved me and baby.

i never forgot that incident, it still gives me chills, nightmares.
i will never go for a 2nd child again.

Holy crap, Namaste, in what country did THAT happen?
No Western hospital would give a flying fling what the mother-in-law thinks!
She wouldn't even be allowed in the room unless YOU (not your husband) gave permission.

Every birth is different. I hallucinated that I was a fridge freezer, and that there was a security guard in the hospital who could change himself into a metaphysical concept. Pretty sure that's not "normal"... I was in labour for thirty six hours.

this happened in a remote area of Indian small town
my mother in law was the head nurse in the hospital
she had worked in the labour room for several years
the doctor was her colleague so she couldnt say anything to my mother in law
actually my fault i shouldnt have gone there for delivery
but my mother doesnt care, also i fear hospital, and no money also that time for delivery and
other expenses

My mom actually had cervical cancer. They told her she would never be able to have any kids because of the health complications she had and yet here I am today, in the flesh. She proved doctor's wrong. However, I wasn't born the natural way since my mom had to have a c-section because of those said health issues. I weighed ten pounds and two ounces. I was big for a girl so they thought I was a boy.

That's really all my parents remember from my birth. They said I never had any health concerns at birth and I was born a healthy baby girl. I do wonder if maybe my mom's health concerns are what might have caused what I deal with today. But it could also be the emotional abuse from my schools I had as well. My parents tried so hard to get me the help I needed and often times the teachers didn't understand that I was behaving because I had a lot of learning and developmental delays. I could read and write quite well for my age group but I had trouble with speech after I learned to speak at about four.

My mom always considers me her miracle child because she wasn't supposed to have kids.

Ive got 6 kids, some of them with asd.
With the first, I gave birth in the hospital and it was awful. Being prodded and poked by complete strangers, and having to sleep 4 nights on a ward, I found very stressful.
I coped better with 2,3,4and 5. I only stayed in hospital one night each time,and I put in my birth plan that I value my privacy and want to be left alone as much as possible.
With No 6, I had a home birth, with a midwife I had known several years, and she was fantastic. She was really down to earth and I liked the way she spoke. That was no problem at all.
I had pethidine with No 1, and it was unpleasant, and gas and air I found really annoying and not useful, so with 2,3,4,5 &6 I had no pain killers.
I have found that I have coped better with the birth than I have with the week afterwards, everyone visiting and fussing. I have developed a great act of pretending to be asleep because of times like those.

The whole childbirth thing, for me, is nasty, and I do not do well with nausea and pain. I just wanted to be as separated from the experience as possible.

#1: Bloody, vag delivery with requested epidural, epidural POST delivery! (Dr said, "oooh, it looks bad down there.")
Thank you, #1, for my incontinece issues. Now I cannot run or jump without a pad!

#2: Emergent C-Section due to Placenta Previa. I guess pushing that piano to the other room was a bad idea... Thank God for epidurals!

#3: C-Section due to not progressing. Fighting to get more fentanyl in my epidural was not appreciated!
Throwing up the Bicitra as they rinsed my uterus in the OR was not appreciated either.

Breastfeeding was attempted and replaced with pumping. I do not miss gaining and losing 60 pounds, being pregnant or the aftermath of pregnancy!