How come all the female aspies here seem so convinced...

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I can't accept the premise of the question because I don't see evidence of this overwhelming hoard of aspie women boasting about their inherent beauty. It would be nice if all the women on this forum were like a living, breathing Dove commercial that was all about girl power and accepting natural beauty in all its forms (thereby negating the misogynistic mainstream beauty standards that prioritize conformity and submission above individuality and health) but this place isn't there yet.

I think every woman on this forum deserves a pint of ice cream for putting up with the BS this forum brings. From men whining about the existence of a Women's Discussion section to all the claims in Love & Dating that women only want wealthy NT jerks, a woman must be a strong character to continue to communicate here. This isn't even going into how women are sexually harassed. Apparently, self-proclaimed logical and intelligent thinkers believe it's acceptable to make vulgar sexual suggestions when someone merely disagrees with their ill-formed opinion. It gets worse in Private Message.

When we consider the compliments that women receive on this forum, there's a very important factor that must be considered. A woman's general personality is available to others on the forum often before her image is. This means that if people like a specific person, they are going to think she is more beautiful than the misogynistic mainstream beauty standards may have judged her on her looks alone. Personality does make someone more attractive. So that supposed 5/6 out of 10 that's heralded as a 9 out of 10? She's actually a 9 out of 10 because her personality and her appearance have gathered great affection in the minds and hearts of the people with whom she's communicating. There is nothing wrong with that. While this isn't an incredible, overwhelming population of the forum, I do hope that one day it is. I sincerely hope every woman is considered rightfully beautiful because, honestly, she is.

As for myself, it doesn't really matter to me if anybody here is attracted to me. It makes no difference is anyone wants to flirt with me or have sex with me. My marriage is monogamous and I have no inclination to cheat. My husband thinks I'm pretty and I think it's important that he's attracted to me, given the fact that he's stuck with me. As far as personality goes, I accept that there are people here who like me and dislike me. It's a bit like real life that way.

Being considered a good-looking aspie woman attracts a lot of unwanted and cringeworthy attention.

Trust me, it aint all that great.

Us less attractive ones get that attention, too.

I never said I was ugly, but thanks.

I think I'm friggin' beautiful!
Apart from my weight issue...
Don't care if anyone agrees with me, though they've no grounds to disagree since I don't post photos.
Heck, my name is so androgynous some people probably think I'm a dude, anyway.
If they think of me at all, which is frankly unlikely.

I don's think I'm particularly good looking either!

I am not beautiful and I don't care. I don't want men to think of me when they are masturbating.
When I wear make up I feel stupid, I can't concentrate. And I don't shave my legs. Because of that many people think I am lesbian, even lesbian women. I just refuse to be defined by my sex. Where is written that women must be beautiful and use make up? All must live the way they feel in the respect of others.

^^Wearing makeup makes you feel stupid?

I wear makeup if I'm going out, but not if I'm just hanging about the house.
I'm conservative with it, though, and my husband says I look the same with or without it

What are you talking about? I'm down on my looks all the time. I give myself a 4/10 on a good day. I'm very well aware of the beauty industry and put on mascara and eyeliner on every day. :/

Yeah, I've definitely heard the men on this forum toot their own horns about how "good looking" they are and then they wonder why they can't get a woman.