do you have/want friends?

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I have a few friends. One of them I have been friends with since I was in 3rd grade and she was in 4th grade. And we are 20 and 21 now. I also have a boyfriend and a few other friends. Only two of my friends are best friends though.

I'm have friends, but it's a bit interesting for me. My friends are quite a bit older than me. I seem to get along best with people over 20, and sometimes older teenagers as well. I have 2 close friends and about 5 or 6 casual friends. I only see my two close friends and three of my casual friends frequently, so I'd say I have about 5 friends that I see on a regular basis. I wouldn't mind having more but it's not necessary for my happiness.

I have over 10 acquaintances.

I have 3 friends at home who I see a couple times a month: one of them is a college friend. And then I have a bunch of college friends but I just graduated and right now I only keep constant contact with my 3 closest college friends who are far away from me. I swear I miss them so much. The others I might have sporadic to no contact with them. I have a few online friends.

I have a girlfriend and a few close friends, but it takes years for me to become close to someone, and not many people stick around that long without getting frustrated that they can't earn my trust or that I seem disinterested. But I think that is a good thing, it weeds out the people that would bail when things get tough anyway.

I have a few I feel I can confide to but only on the internet. In real life it's hard for me to keep any due to my social anxieties/quirks and wanting time to myself. This didn't use to bother me up until recently. With my grandmother gone (my best friend) and being older, life is less motivating when there's no one to share it with. My cats are the only ones who sort of keep me sane.

i like to have friends. i don't keep friends very well because i am flaky, possessive, weird, intense, etc. so i have gotten fairly good at making new friends as the lost ones need to be periodically replaced. i used to get really sad about it but now i am much more philosophical.

i have "friends", but not actual friends.

There are lots of people I'm friendly with, but really my best friends have been my children for many years. The problem is that they just graduated from college and both of them moved to other states

We talk on the phone a lot, but still ...

I don't have any friends. I think I would like to, but I'm not really sure if I can handle the amount of effort involved. I would like a small group that I could do things like dinner parties and picnics, but most people seem to want to go to noisy parties I can't tolerate, and I can't seem to manage phone conversations and the constant facebook updates and things that seem to be required to maintain a friendship.

I tried very hard for a while to be more social, but nothing much seemed to work and I think I have pretty much given up.

Naw, I don't have friends, either, unless you count my husband and mom. I really don't want any either. They are confusing and exhausting.

I enjoy my friends. I've got some still from middle school and gain a few every year. Some fade away, but when we find each other years later I can pick right back up and keep going from where we left off the first time. Personally, I can't imagine not wanting friends and not having any, but then I also value mine very highly and consider them almost above family.

In primary school, I had a 'friend' who, thinking back on it, treated me badly. In secondary school I had one person who I hung around with, but I ended up disliking her by Year 10 or so. There were a few others who I liked and who liked me back, but we didn't often do things together. I did have one friend in the year above me, she's very quirky and lovely. At university, I started going to a society, and made some good friends there. My friends all have quirks (some are Aspie, some have mental health conditions, some are non-conformists) and we all accept each other for who we are. I couldn't ask for better people, even though I had to wait a long time to find them (this sounds cheesy, but it's true ).

I have two and a husband and that is about all I can keep up with. It's hard to maintain relationships so I don't try because I usually lose interest or don't call and that's not fair to them. I am pretty happy what I have. If I didn't have my husband, I'd want someone else to be super close to. I need that.

I have two or three people that I call friends. I can talk to them about all kinds of things, including personal stuff. But it's much easier for me to talk to people on the phone and my favorite way of communicating is by e-mail.

I used to have more friends when I was younger but I haven't really socialized in more than 10 years. I just gave up on it I guess and I didn't feel the need to socialize anymore either.
That makes it really hard to meet new people but on the other hand..... I just love being alone. The only time that I feel really relaxed and free is when I'm by myself in my own home and my own world. Socializing with people is very draining and often disappointing for me. I find The conversations about every day superficial stuff that other people are having quite boring.
I just don't get it and it's difficult for me to feel a real connection with a lot of the people that I meet.

I am aware of the fact that I should socialize more and I hope that I will get some professional help with that in the near future.

Last edited by pokerface on 29 Jul 2011, 4:55 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I have 2 good friends. Ones I can call up anytime and say come over I need you. One that I can drop my kids off at and say that I need a break.

These friends though do not expect anything from me. We can go for days and weeks without seeing or talking to each other. It's fabulous. It's taken me lots of time to find the right people though.

I can go for years without any local friends if we move or something. It's hard to play the game. Hate it.

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