Female Stereotypes

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Joined: 29 May 2007
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,359
Location: Spokane, Washington

28 Nov 2011, 1:52 am

Stereotypes in general bother me. I am a female lone wolf but I think lone wolves in general are viewed as being strange..not just women. I was never very social but it gave me time to pursue my own interests and speculate on a lot of things. I know people will think I'm weird when (or if) I'm not married with kids by 30, but I am not willing to pursue a life that is not natural to me to avoid a few criticisms and judgements. Having children is a great privilege for women but it's not for every women. We see bad mothers in legal trouble all the time which proves my point. I just hope that I can retain meaning later in life without having a family.

I'm personally content with having a dog and cat God is my best friend and my animals are my family. Lame, I know.

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Joined: 23 Oct 2010
Age: 41
Gender: Female
Posts: 42

05 Dec 2011, 4:21 pm

bumble wrote:

I had little choice really as I could not leave her to fend for herself, she needed assistance. But the general line of thinking in my family was that I was the girl and therefore it was my responsibility.

I loved my mother but I gave up many years of my life, suffered from horrible depression because of it, and am now stuck on disability because my mental health deteriorated as a result. I was very unhappy in my life as I always wanted a career and with my grade average I could have had one. Because I suffered from depression and have been on disability for it (along side severe social anxiety) I am now worried that employers will not give me a chance. People seem to think my depression was just a defect and that it came from nowhere, when in actual fact, I was just painfully unhappy for many years because I lost everything I wanted in my life to care for other people.

Don't get me wrong I cared about them, but I gave up a lot and lost out on most of my twenties and thirties. I am now nearly 40 and trying to get a career started but it won't be easy at my age. Especially as I still have to get my degree due to my having given it up to care for my family. I just hope I have not missed my chance to find what I wanted from life.

For those reasons I am considering self employment but I will have to see how it goes.

I am hoping that in my 40's I can finally have the life I want instead of the life that everyone else thinks I should be leading.

Your story is very sad. I really hope you can make up much of it and heal the mental trails also.

Even people who choose some helping career and are not missing out big dreams can sometimes get depressed while caring too much time for family members, how can someone think your depression has no relation to it.

Don't let anyones expectations stop you any more, they know nothing of what's good for you.

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