Making out and One night stands

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What's wrong with it? Nothing about this is "supposed" to be any way, its up to the individual to define what is supposed to be.

The only reason I can see for avoiding something like that is that the other person might get attached. I did have a few ONS when I was in my mid-20s and I had a slight problem with that, since I'd never had a girlfriend at that point. But it was manageable because they were always clear with me on that point, except once (but that once, it caused quite a few problems).

One night stands are trashy and immature.

Adults should have the maturity to not sleep with someone the day they meet them.

"Hooking up" with someone should involve some iota of feeling, shared interests/passion/concern for each other, etc.

Meeting someone and "doing it" the same night is about as trashy as it gets. Not to mention, risky with unplanned pregnancies, STDs, etc. Sex is more than a physical activity... it should involve emotion and genuine feelings for each other. If you sleep with some guy/girl the night you meet them, you don't know them yet... you probably don't even know their last name.

I don't like the way it appears you are hinting that one night stands are for children. I know you didn't mean it that way, but if it's an immature thing to do, that adults shoudn't do, then who should??

Adults should have the maturity to make up their own minds, and act responsibly. That approach does not exclude them from engaging in one night stands. Sex means different things to different women, and it also means different things to the same woman in different circumstances. You have a narrow view of what sex should be about, and just because other women have a different view doesn't make them trashy or immature, IMO.

Unplanned pregnancies, STDs etc all occur outside of the realm of one night stands. For a lot of women there would even be more precautions taken when having a one night stand, compared to when sleeping with someone she has known a while longer.

Making out or hooking up with someone I just met at a party or club = hell no!

Making out or hooking up with someone I kinda knew but did not know too well = umm I used to do it, but I really haven't wanted to do it due to getting hurt in the pass. In fact I haven't done anything in almost 2 yrs.

Oh, I could never do it, emotionally it would be impossible. Doesn't stop me from wanting try it sometimes though.

Half the point of a ONS - you're not supposed to worry about whether the guy is nice or not. Defeats the purpose.

It just shows how much of a dork I am.

It's not my thing, at this point in my life, but I don't think it's inherently trashy or immature any more than relationships are. Both have the potential to be, neither are necessarily so.



It can be whatever two consenting people want it to be, there is no "should" about it that can apply equally well to everyone. Some people don't want to get emotionally involved with other people but still have sexual desires, there's nothing immature about realistically recognizing that in oneself. Quite the opposite (provided it's true, anyway). Deceiving people about expectations, that's bad. But two consenting people who don't want to get involved in each other's lives ... what's wrong with it? Who are you to judge them as trashy or immature?

Well maybe, but if you're trying to avoid them, then you're worrying about it.

I don't have any issue with one night stands between two adults. I had a long single stretch, and had a "friend with benefits" relationship for a few years. We were comfortable with each other, and both didn't need anything beyond that. When I did find someone I was interested in, he bowed out gracefully.

I don't even like people I don't/barely know touching me.

I can't do one-night-stands, the idea is repulsive to me (if you do it, wonderful, it's just not for me) and the same for PDA of any sort, which is, I assume, how one gets to the point of a one-night-stand in the first place.

In all fairness, I have never been in that sort of position anyway, as I generally avoid places where that sort of thing could happen.

With time (i reached 30, recently,) I found it easier, look for this, than other thing, sometimes. I don't really think I have an issue with that,either, also. guess

I'm not judgemental of people who like ONS, if they truly enjoy them then they are free to do what they want. Not my style though, sex is something way too intimate to do with just anyone. Similar with kissing, I love the emotional connection and closeness that it brings, but the physical sensation is not that great, really.

This.

Me too.

I have never done either of these things before: it's just not for me.