Is sex important?

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Brandy, I think you should get an opinion from an MD outside Florida. Quality medical care (just like quality anything) is hard to come by in Florida and it's possible the tradeoff you're looking at would be reduced/unnecessary in, say, Massachusetts.

Hi Brandy,

If you are not presently in a relationship, maybe your best bet is to put off the decision and the surgery, get some other opinions, buy time and wait for technology to advance. Advances in technology (which happen remarkably fast these days) will probably increase your chances of retaining your ability to walk after the surgery.

I have something totally unrelated to AS that has in the past put my ability to walk, and some other abilities, at some risk. I have also been a nurse and taken care of people confined to wheelchairs for life and that is not a lifestyle I could personally tolerate well. So I had to make some tough choices about what activities had to be given up to regain and maintain the stability that allowed me to stay on my feet. My husband has an interesting history of his own. He saw the need for the choices I was making and he's been understanding and supportive. I walk all the time, and I'm practical, so I prioritized by giving up problem activities that I didn't do all the time to have stability in activities I do use all the time, and we enjoy those activities together too. Sex is just one aspect of a lasting relationship, and you can be creative about it. It's not what it's all about for most people, especially long term. Personally I think sex is over-rated, especially by the media.

It's good that you asked for opinions, I think. This is a controversial subject and in the end you'll have to make your own best decision for yourself, but there is often some wisdom to be had from other people's experience even if it's not with exactly the same thing.

Hi. Everyone. Thanks for all the replies. My doctor is one of the best in the state and I jokingly mention during an out patient procedure he could cut me up and put me back together again I trust him as a doctor that much. He has also done past surgeries on me and no matter the newer doctors I get for other issues HE is the only one that looks at the past surgery stuff. Not even my physician looks at my body outside of a stethoscope basic stuff.

I agree perhaps wait it out and see what happens with a potential relationship. The doctor at my past check-up just brought it up as a "possibility" still and it was still on the table if I wanted to go that route although as he said there are other ways to have a loving relationship.

Thanks.

As long as you're okay with your boyfriend getting sexual satisfaction from other women.

I still think she shouldn't do it just to satisfy some hypothetical future boyfriend that she may never get to engage in certain sexual acts that she may or may not enjoy.