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^ How barbaric.
If that happened here in the states, you could, if you chose, have had your mother-in-law tried for assault, battery, kidnapping, etc. I hope you've gained some measure of independence since then.

I had an early internal ultrasound (forgot about that), but I've had a lot of them (IVF baby) and I find them to be OK, not as uncomfortable as a smear or an internal exam. I also had an induced labour, but I was on a drip, so nothing was needing to be inserted. But, I did have an exam, to check my waters had broken and one closer to the pushing stage. Internal exams are really fine for me, in comparison with interventions, i.e. ventouse/forceps, so I don't think I would have been too upset if I had needed more during labour. Being examined would never put me off having another baby. However, being told I'd have another back to back induced labour and the only way of getting the baby out would be a ventouse or forceps would send a shiver down my spine. But, I would be prepared next time and ask for an epidural, before it was too far down the line (as was the case with my daughter). I was in a consultant led unit, so I had a fully trained midwife throughout labour and a doc at the end for the ventouse (which didn't work), then forceps. I had been diagnosed with Group B Strep when I had the bleed, so I was considered high risk, had an antibiotic drip during labour, and would never have been allowed to have a home birth, etc. It's just as well really, because I would have needed to get to hospital in a hurry.

ya i know in states the laws are good for any independent person but in india there is just barbarism.
My mother in law was mentally harassing me with dowry demands so i cut off from her.
To which all my relatives opposed me and even my hubby's sister and other relatives are opposed.
A woman cannot stand up for her rights in india she is mere puppet like a dumb doll which everyone makes
dance to their tune

I'm so glad that you cut her off. I've heard about dowry demands in India, that the in-laws can actually threaten the daughter's life to try to extort things from her parents. It's like getting married = becoming a hostage... it makes one wonder why anyone (any woman, any way) would ever want to get married, if she had a choice about it.

Not that everything is all roses over here - we have problems, too, but compared to what you're describing it must look like paradise.

There is no choice because its compulsory to do arranged marriage here in india love marriage is considered taboo
There are exhorbiant dowry demands and i remember for one whole year my mom kept on searching for a suitable groom for me
most of them wanted a girl who would earn well, permanent government job or atleast good salary
Since i didnt have a stable job it was getting difficult to find a groom.
Then my mother in law wanted a flat too which my mom agreed.
Also my friends marriage was called off after the wedding cards were distributed because the grooms family wanted more dowry
and 1 lakh cash immediately. Somehow her father borrowed from someone and paid the dowry then the marriage procession continued.

Here in India girls are sold off and they end up becoming servant in their husbands house they have to work from dawn to dusk and also
take care of babies and work also.

Also if they give birth to girl child then they are harassed day in and day out they have to keep giving birth to children till the time a male child is born.

There is lot of mental and emotional torture

This is so unfair.