That biological clock business

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The biological clock thing confuses me. I'm not sure mine is working, and if it is, I think it's working in a screwed up way.

I don't like kids, I don't like toddlers, I don't even like babies. I never have. I don't want to hear about anyone's babies, I don't want to hold them, and I'd prefer not to have to be in the same room with them. Obviously, I have no desire for any of my own.

I'm going to be 28 this summer. Everyone else my age is all googly-eyed over babies, but I'm left just trying to pretend like I think they're cute when subjected to other females drooling over them.

I say that I think mine might be reacting in a screwed up way because I've had some weird "changes." I've always loved cats, but really disliked dogs. Suddenly, about two years ago, I started thinking puppies were cute and started thinking about getting one. That's seriously strange behavior for me because I've always STRONGLY disliked dogs, and been afraid of them. I kind of got myself over wanting a puppy, and became obsessed with getting another kitten (I already have 2 cats). I fought that off and everything was kind of OK for a while. Then about 6 months ago, the desire for a puppy really hit me hard again and wouldn't go away. My husband and I talked about it a lot, and we've got a puppy on the way now (the mother dog is pregnant).

I think my biological clock is expressing itself by making me want baby animals. Maybe wanting puppies and kittens is coincidental, but I have considered that it's my form of biological clock.

Reading this thread, most of the responses seems very bizarre and alien to me.

Yeah, me too.

That's funny what you said about men. Men were always like that about me. I even had one try to sabotage my birth control which only succeeded in getting me to dump him immediately. What is it about saying you never want a kid that makes a man want to immediately get you pregnant?


Anyway, back to topic. I never felt any such biological clock, but I'm sure that's what it is if intellectually you are still not wanting them. I didn't experience any such feelings ever. I didn't even have any idea when I was ovulating or if I ever did. I was regular as clockwork (my period started on the same day within an hour), so I was extremely careful about birth control, but other than that, I just didn't think about it. I did eventually get married and made it a condition of agreeing to the marriage that the topic couldn't even come up or I'd divorce him. He's OCD so he doesn't care. Kids are too noisy and messy for him as well. Neither one of us are comfortable around babies or kids (I won't say I dislike them, they just make me nervous and agitated).


Maybe my clock was just broken and I just lucked out? Anyway, I'm 47 and never regretted the decision for a second. I consider it the best decision I ever made actually.