Attraction v. Effort

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None at all.
First of all I'm not really into dating and relationships; I've never been really interested in those things.
Then, what's the point in "trying to look good"? That person would realize that I'm just trying to do that, because I'm not good at these things.
Exept that, I'm not able to change my behaviour, I've never been, an I don't think I will ever be.

I was told that people don't consider me attractive because of this. Ahw well. Not that bad. I'm neither interested.

I generally make sure I look presentable. I wear make-up about once a week. I can't wear high heels any more due to joint issues. Wear a dress about once a month. I like to take care of my hair and skin, though. I'm more concerned with wearing clothes that look a bit like my personality (I find this hard to express) than I am about being physically attractive. If I had the skill, I would make my own clothes, but I'm really really really bad with textiles. I'll try and learn to customise the clothes I've got a bit at some time in the future when I can be bothered. I can't really wear clothes that show my figure off at the moment; I still have quite a lot of weight to lose. When I was slim though, I didn't wear revealing clothes because I was cold all the time (I think it was the opiates I was taking) and I was much, much less interested in sex (probably the drugs again but also depression.) If I ever manage to get this weight off, I'm showing more flesh in summer, damnit.

I like being attractive towards men, but I don't put effort into it. When I dress like "me" it's to put a swagger in my step because I FEEL good, which turns heads... and makes me feel better. (I used to not care at all and then I became quite addicted to sex. Oh well.)

Still trying to figure out how to make this short hair feel sexy. Curse you, texas summer!

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I have learned over the years what kind of "look" gets the most response, so it doesn't take all that much special effort on my part to put on that look, anyway.

Not all men find it attractive to be all gussied up. Some men find holey jeans, no makeup, and maybe even a little sweat to be quite attractive. There's no way to predict ahead of time what will appeal to any one individual, so what's the point of worrying about it?

There's nothing wrong with wanting to appeal to the opposite gender. Nor is there anything wrong with not especially caring about it. What I do find annoying is when someone looks down on me because I either do or don't go out of my way to appeal to men.

I don't try to make myself attractive to men, and I am not attracted to men.

I like to wear nice clothes at times, but whether and how often varies a lot. I guess I could say my presentation has varied from femme to soft butch.

I can hardly say. So I do care for staying healthy, which includes being attractive to some part. So if you do sport, eat healthy and so on, you become healthier and that helps you automatic to look better. But I dont care in any way for facepainting or cloths. I am myself, my body, and my body doesnt change because of me applying some colour outside or wearing weird stuff. So when it comes to physical attractness, I care for it, because it means staying healthy. But I dont care in any way for external attractness.

I dress in clothes I find comfortable and not too unattractive, and I stay active to feel good in my own body; on the occasions that I dress up, it's because I feel like looking good, not 'in order to attract men.' I figure that I might as well show my true self, and if a guy doesn't like what I look like after 5 minutes, he's unlikely to like it months in to a long relationship.

Like someone else said, I put effort in to look good for own my health and happiness and to avoid disgusting everyone else The only time I go beyond that to appear more attractive is if I know or suspect I'm going to encounter a man (or woman) that I want to be interested in me that way. Funny thing is I used to try to be what I thought were the things guys wanted (long dyed hair, makeup, low-cut tops) but I actually get way more attention and compliments now that I dropped that bullsh*t and did what floats my own boat.

I dress to make myself comfortable. Any effort I put into my appearance is for my own satisfaction. Some days I want to feel pretty, some days I want to feel butch, some days it's hot as hell outside and I'm dressing for the weather, but I don't dress for men's eyes. I don't care. I'm not decoration.

I like to look presentable, not just for guys, but in general. Then again my idea of presentable is a comfortable (but decent looking) outfit, some lip gloss, and remembering to brush my hair that day.

so women only do their make up dress nice for men?

^ hard to believe you got that message based on the posters before you in this thread.