Is this a face you'd want to see in the women's restroom?

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I'd think there's be more of a chance of trouble with a M-F transgender in a mens room.

In some small venues there won't be enough room for more than one unisex toilet and one disabled toilet (which is also unisex).

The only real problem I have with this is that there are some people who sit down to have a dump or pee and don't bother to lock the door first, and it's more than just a bit awkward if I walk in on them (or start to, and then they leap up and shove the door closed in my face rudely, quite possibly while streaking poo across the toilet seat and floor).
It's not even like it's difficult or complicated to lock a door, you know ? I learned how to do that when I was like, 4 years old.

I'd far rather that people like that had their own toilet to go in where they can startle each other to their heart's content, and sh*t everywhere while leaping around... but I wouldn't have a problem with a person who can lock a door like a normal person and looks like the person in the picture being in a womens' bathroom.

They let my face in there, so why not?

Wrong place to ask. Many of us avoid looking at other people for the dreaded "eye contact". I'd never have noticed anything. I myself have walked into men's room multiple times and not notice anything until I'm washing my hands and saw the urinals.

Actually, when meeting this person on the street, I would think of it as a feminine looking man, but when I met the person i a ladies room, I´d simply think of her being a bit masculine looking female, because otherwise I wouldnt expect her/him to be in the female restrooms. ^^

So I´d say that this person, does look a bit masculine for a woman, but because of her being in the woman restrooms, I´d think that she actually was a woman. ^^

But I cant tell, how much you can compare different cultures. Around here you normally have separated and closed stalls for the toilettes. So the washing room of the female toilette is not that of an sanctuary, because actually you have most often the "pampers change" desk in the woman washing room, so fathers that are with their kids need to go there as well. Just as more prude dads with little girls (that still need some assistance in butt-wiping or opening/closing cloths) mostly go with them to the woman toilette, because of them avoiding to go with the little girls through the man washing room, where the pissoirs are, and where the little girl could see some "male-facts". ^^ As well that the stalls are normally to small for two person in it, so when they do assist in but whiping or pulling cloths on or off, then normally the stall door is a open, and I think they dont want other men to see their half naked girl-butts. ^^

So as long as you dont stand creepy luring in a corner, with a knife behind your back, I think people would not be whondering that much. As well that at least for "openly" transgender people it is accepted to use the toilette of the gender, they feel towards themselve, if this can be related by optic. So even if it was fully recognizable by silhouette, ... that you were a men, if you are dressed as woman, so that people recognize that you feel yourself as woman, its for most people around here no issue.

I think you look androgynous. At first glance, you look more towards the feminine side. Upon closer inspection, you look more towards the masculine side. Either way, it wouldn't matter to me whether or not you are using the same restroom as I am. The gender you feel is more important than the genitalia you were born with. Sort of unrelated because you specifically asked about segregated restrooms, but I think restrooms should be unisex anyway.

Thanks, all. I feel much better.

I wouldn't have a problem with you if I saw you in a women's restroom. I probably wouldn't even notice anything odd about you at all. You actually look quite a bit like an old friend of mine, so I think you look nice/friendly.

I probably wouldn't notice you.

But if you're talking to your HR rep about this, I presume it's because you began transitioning at work - and that could make some people uncomfortable? I dunno?