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I get something a bit like this a lot when I am very anxious. Your boyfriend doesn't make you worried but clearly you are anxious about passing gas in front of him so perhaps this anxiety is making the problem worse. My problem used to be "stomach rumbling" and I would get this in lectures at University. The more anxious I got about it, the more my stomach would make a noise. It would feel very "crampy" and like I needed to pass gas too. Sometimes I would skip lectures because I was so worried about it happening. But then I decided I had to master my anxiety so I made myself go. I would feel tense but I would make myself sit back and try and relax my muscles. If my stomach started to cramp and I feared it would rumble I would take small sips of water and concentrate on my breathing and relaxing my muscles and these things helped a lot. I read somewhere that peppermint can help with problems like these too but I never tried that.

My partner and I both feel a little embarrassed about passing gas in front of each other but we just try to make a joke out of it if it happens. I know you are embarrassed but just try to think how you would deal with it if your partner farted in front of you. I doubt you would think badly of him or be disgusted or anything like that because rationally you know that everyone needs to pass gas. Chances are he would be the same -- not that bothered! If you can try to think that it's not really a big deal this might help you to feel less worried about it and that could help with the cramps.

I hope this gets better for you.

Generally, farting is a result of two things: Diet and gastric bateriae.

If you find yourself suddenly farting more, and your diet hasn't changed, it could be some kind of stomach germ. You might have eaten food that had started to go bad, or which contained certain bacteriae to begin with. If microbiota is the problem, it'll very likely stop on its own.

There's some chance that you're simply noticing the fact that you're passing gas more than you would normally, since it doesn't feel embarassing whilst you're alone.

In any case, it's highly probable that your boyfriend will get used to it - after all, he did with himself. If you happen to do it, I suggest apologetic humour - Make a fake embarassed face and say "oops" or something.

It's also possible to regulate the passing of gas based on when you eat. If you're full, you're much more likely to fart. My diet involves fasting every other day, which means I only really pass gass on the days I eat. Depending on your physiology, it might be a sensible choice to not eat in the hours before seeing your partner.

But I really do think the best choice is to just get used to it and try not to think too much about it. Your boyfriend would be extremely foolish if he turned it into an issue.

It really does sound like stress, in which case (unfortunately) the more you think about it, the worse it's going to get. Gas-X can help sometimes, but relaxation helps far more. Maybe try having a drink? Something to take the edge off? Also remember that the more empty your stomach is, the more gas you build up. Avoid certain foods, but don't blanketly avoid food in general. It will have the opposite effect to the one you want.

My guess is you are getting nervous about being at your boyfriend's, for whatever reason, and you are swallowing more air causing the gas.

Peppermint essential oil REALLY helps. Rub a few drops over the area of concern (abdomen, near either the stomach or intestines.) Within 5 minutes, the gas has dissipated for me.

You can also take it internally, but I don't know the details on how to do that.

Glass of milk..Could you be lactose intolerant? I think there are special dairy products on the market for the lactose intolerant.

I get this.
Fortunately my wind doesn't smell of anything at all, even if in the bath I hold my head over the bubbles so I can get a good whiff, it smells just like dinner if at all.

I have also learnt how to relax my muscles whilst holding the gas back slightly so that I can fart silently.
You do have to remember to be facing away from your partner though else he will be wondering how you managed to blow on his leg.

Well actually my boyfriend has farted in front of me, after almost 3 months of not hearing him fart at all. I didn't even hear him fart in his sleep until after the day he decided to let rip the first time in front of me, then since then I've been hearing him fart in his sleep. So perhaps he knows how to control his farts when he's sleeping, I don't know.

He doesn't seem to get a lot of gas, even though he seems to get a lot of indigestion and stuff like that. Well I suppose I don't hardly get any gas either, but since he has been farting in front of me, I haven't got so gassy when going over to his, so perhaps I was shy about it and was waiting for him to fart first. I don't care if I fart in bed. And yes I do know how to make them quiet. I just get more embarrassed about if they smell. His don't tend to smell often, but in my experience women seem to have smellier farts than men. I could even do an experiment for proof. Perhaps it's a hormone thing, like men produce less bacteria in their bowels than women, I don't know.

1401b your response cracked me up! thanks! I needed a good laugh!