Women: How to DESTROY your marriage.

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Oh well if you're insane don't worry, we all have our issues. We haven't had enough Aspie males speak up to see the trend Calandale. They are all being silent. Maybe they are intellectualizing it.

Besides if she was nagging, there was infidelity and she was staying angry, she didn't follow the first rules. Same is true if that was you.

We need the Aspies to speak up and write Aspie rules if they are different.

Actually with the first rules, you'll see what I said. For most of them I can't even imagine why they are there in that relationship, but then I don't have tolerance for most of it. The second set is pretty tongue in cheek, but also pretty true of NT men. As I said, with Aspies, I have no idea how true it is. Some Aspie women consider themselves pretty asexual, so obviously they wouldn't follow the second set at all.

I'm actually the one in the relationship who always wants more. LOL. As for complaining-- well it happens sometimes. But then I also talk about how wonderful he is so I think it evens out pretty well. I found talking a lot and communication is good. Keeps him happy so I get sex. Oh and baked goods. You forgot baked goods. If I bake him his cookies and other stuff he likes, I have a happier husband. If its too long without cookies, he thinks I am starving him.

I don't cook, so baked goods would not occur to me. He's the one who makes sure I eat and decides what we eat. I'm the one who wouldn't realize he was starving until I tripped over his skeleton. (This being a theory they tested out on my nephew who left before he actually starved).

Hmmmm. You have to bribe him to get sex? I haven't had that issue thankfully. I would wander off I'm sure.

What is it you complain about?

Sounds more like she communicates with him, and gets more.

Cookies are definitely a good thing. As a guy gets older, he
cares less about sex, and more about food.

No sex. Feeding. Sounds like a mother. Doesn't sound appetizing to me.


>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Mothers located that way.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

I bribe for sex sometimes. My dh asked me to help him grade last night. I told him I'd do it if we had sex afterwards. LOL. But the lab reports were so horrific and tedious (analytical chemistry for food science majors! Oh the horror!! !) I was no longer in the mood afterwards.

Analytical chemistry for food science? No wonder you weren't in the mood after! LOL I think that goes even beyond my usual food issues!

I agree with the rules. Especially the sex part.

Try not to make the following mistake, though.. One time, after sex and a little later in the day, husband was being a bit mean...and I complained and said, " What is your deal? I even had sex with you so you'd be nicer!"

LOL Did you put your hand over your mouth after you said it?


No, do not do that.

Hey all, I know this is the women's forum, but I figured I'd chime in. I hope noone minds...

As far as sex fixing issues, I'm with the other guy: it is great and all, but it just puts them off. I have great intimacy with my fiancee, but if our relationship were even based partly on sex we would have broken up long ago (we have been long distance due to work for 18 months now). I think that the other parts are more important. Don't get me wrong, the sex is important too, but as a reinforcement of our other connections.

Oh, and she never lets me go hungry...

I just now saw this thread! ZanneMarie, I agree totally! You said it all much more articulately than I could! This has worked nicely for me and my NT guy for the past 23 years. Don't know about this working with aspie males, though. They appear to be more...uh...complex! Yikes!!