addressing anger when it comes up

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15 May 2016, 10:37 pm

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To your question about where it goes, I think every woman on here knows where it goes

Not to be blatantly autistic, but I honestly don't. Unless you're agreeing about the wine thing?

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15 May 2016, 10:42 pm

Yeah, I agree with the wine and binge drinking thing. Speaking from experience, I'm going to add other addictions like shoplifting, eating disorders, taking it out on their families, partners, parents, kids or close relationships.
Some disgruntled or impatient person at Best Buy could mean hurting herself or somebody else who does in no way deserve it.

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16 May 2016, 9:02 am

Alcohol just makes me feel nauseous and fall asleep. My husband has been around me when I've been very drunk, and he says there's no change in my personality or demeanor at all. He says he can't even tell I've been drinking except for the occasional stumble and, of course, the puking. Yeah, I don't drink very often.

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16 May 2016, 2:53 pm

EDIT: No drama here. I wish I could delete it
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16 May 2016, 3:22 pm

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Did you just seriously b***h at me? You have me 50 Shades of F***ed Up. Plus are you saying that I'm "somehow uncivilized" and "inappropriate"?

I know this isn't directed at me but I can't tell whether you're joking, especially given the topic.

If you're not joking, you should re-read the post to which you're responding. You're way off base.

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16 May 2016, 3:29 pm

YippySkippy wrote:

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Did you just seriously b***h at me? You have me 50 Shades of F***ed Up. Plus are you saying that I'm "somehow uncivilized" and "inappropriate"?

I know this isn't directed at me but I can't tell whether you're joking, especially given the topic.

If you're not joking, you should re-read the post to which you're responding. You're way off base.

No. I was about to elaborate, it's just not easy to type when I'm not near a computer. Plus my real response was going to be the 1st part of it. Since I never dealt with the second part.

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16 May 2016, 3:38 pm

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My parents would ignore me when I got angry or basically tell me I'm mentally ill so I got to where I wouldn't say anything until I couldn't stand it anymore and i would lash out in one fierce attack which they also ignored.
I'm posting this here in the women's forum because I have an especially hard time trusting women with my anger. I don't witness it at all in my daily life (women expressing anger) but I know it's there. I am literally sick from holding it in. I need to know for sure that I am Not crazy for feeling angry sometimes.

One example: I was recently admitted to a teacher training program and assigned to a wonderful faculty advisor who seemed really supportive of me. I told her how grateful I was that I had her as my advisor several times. I just spoke with her today and it turns out shes leaving in 3 months. It made me feel really mad that she didn't tell me sooner and even worse is I didn't feel I could express any part of that. I actually went in the other direction and said I was sorry blah blah blah. It leaves me feeling empty and hollow inside.

It feels like I go through this everyday one way or another and it's literally killing me and ruining my life. I really need to hear from other a women about a time you got really mad at somebody unrelated to you.

The parents sound like they weren't prepared to deal with something like this. So thier way of dealing with this was to say and do things like that, worst way possible of handling it with the parents. Can't really relate to the other part, not to be a a-hole about this.

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16 May 2016, 8:53 pm

Emmalionheart, when we are accustomed to people judging us negatively or being careless with our feelings, your initial reponse would make sense.

I stood up for myself today when I was trying to book a study room at the library and a man kept interjecting to try to help me and the librarian understand the situation when me and the librarian were capable of figuring it out on our own. I said to him "I'll speak for myself" and inside it felt wrong because I felt strong.

Nothing against wine, for the record!

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16 May 2016, 9:19 pm

esoterica181 wrote:

Well, good for you for sticking up for yourself. Over time, maybe it won't feel wrong to be strong.

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