Women, please comment, looking in the mirror

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Whenever I look in the mirror I feel like I'm looking at a stranger. It's really odd so I try not to look too long, makes me uncomfortable.

I think I know what you mean... its' the way aspergers people think. I think like that, just not about that particular subject.

"Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all?" Just had to say that! lol Anyways, I can sort of relate to what you're talking about, except sometimes I don't look in the mirror strictly for looks. Sometimes I look into a mirror to kind of "act out" a future conversation that I'm going to have (like a meeting with someone for example). Of course, I'm pretty sure that many besides me do the same thing lol. I don't know if I've ever had that epiphany moment. I suppose that sometimes I get moments where I begin to notice what makes me unique and what I look like and what characteristics I got from my mom and which ones I got from my dad and that it makes my physical features and physique unique. Sometimes people look in the mirror way too much, though; almost like Narcissus lol.

I haven't looked in the mirror for 3 years now. I know how to brush my teeth perfectly, I know how to try on clothes in a store without having to look at my face. I can do my hair without a mirror and even dye it by feel.
The reason. My ex boyfriend left on a brutal note. I asked him if I was ugly and he didn't respond he just walked out.
Nice touch on his part. I feel uncomfortable in my own skin most of the time and seeing too many faces a day freaks me out.
I think I would be happier in the countryside for the rest of my life and of course no mirrors would be a vantage point.

Two issues...

1. I know that all my life I have hated looking in the mirror and mostly, nobody what anyone says about how cute I am, I just could never see it. I had a boyfriend who told me that I had to get mirrors and put them throughout my apartment, because he said that he just didn't understand why I could not stand to look at the mirror, like most girls did. That I HAD to start looking at myself to get over that. Anyway, he was a great guy...He knew me well.

2. I do know that once I began reading about AS/HFA, etc...I cried. I'm not sure that it was specifically while looking at the mirror, but yes, I think that at some point I felt like I finally knew who that person in the mirror was...where before, I was "lost"...

I'm glad that you are feeling that way, I believe that is something very healthy.

I actually hate the way I look BUT quite often I find myself facing a mirror and STARING into my own eyes for minutes .

I am told that it is accomanied by tapping at the same time ! ! ??

It makes me uncomfortable to look at myself in the mirror. Most times I look in the mirror without really even seeing myself, if that makes any sense. When I do force myself to focus on my reflection I do not relate to what I see there or consider myself attractive. Others have told me I am attractive but that just makes me feel awkward, or that it is one of those NT things that people do to try and make you feel better. I feel comfortable with who I am as a person on the inside (morals, ect.) but not how I look on the outside.