Anyone women here lack fear of men like most women?

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HAHAha no.
Autistics, in general, are either clueless about danger or just disregards the whole idea of danger.
Any autistics who are either aware enough or easily learnt are very much conditioned to fear.



While I have less fear based responses myself, that doesn't mean I'm fearless. And I do have a taste for danger.

So I sort of focused growing on skills how to make others trust that I can take care of myself -- so I can afford to wander off on my own.

I happened to grew up with people who taught me safety instead of fear.
Getting to know various safety habits, street survival skills...

Because people are always worried around me. They're that kind of people -- not allowed to be alone, safety in numbers.
They will point out the holes of your defences -- one way of seeing criticisms in the streets, if not watch one another from afar.

Likely better than most, since my mom's work is directly involved with local crime from time to time.
And I wouldn't get cocky about it. I'm aware of my limits.


I rarely ever fear things -- not even pain.
The only thing that truly convince me of safety, was to prevent making others worry than my actual own safety.

"What would others think if something happens to me?!" Never actually mind me and myself, I don't want anyone to worry.
But that doesn't mean I can't sneak behind their backs and have fun.

I think it's just a case of 'be careful around someone who's physically stronger than you'.

For eg it would be wise for both a 5 yo boy and a 65 yo man to be wary around a 15 yo boy they don't know well in a badly lit area at night.

Because old man and child aren't going to win that fight against teenager.

There are exceptions to this but all of them involve unusual strength (from the 65 yo) or weakness (from the teenager).

Also the law is out of date and anyone in a relationship needs to beware that their partner might not be operating under a 'yes means yes' attitude. I believe we all should be aiming at that. Women can sexually abuse men. Men can rape men, women can abuse women.

When I was a kid, the 'rape is a stranger in a dark alley' myth was so strong that a husband couldn't be convicted of raping his wife. It's just that the law is based on old fashioned attitudes and takes a while to catch up.

All children need to be taught safety, not just autistic children. An NT child who wasn't taught safety by their parents is more likely to unknowingly put their lives in danger. When my boyfriend's NT son was 6 he took candy from a stranger. He was like, "Daddy, that kind man gave me these sweets", but my boyfriend quickly took the sweets from him and told him that he should never take sweets from a stranger because you don't know if they could be poisoned or whatever. The son shook his head innocently and said, "no, Daddy, he was a kind man." So my boyfriend had to sit him down and tell him that there are some bad people out there that pretend to be nice to fool children. It sounded like the kid had learnt a lot of new stuff that day.

(He didn't live with my boyfriend, he lived with his mother, who didn't seem to teach the kids anything about danger, which was why they took more stupid risks even when they got towards their teenage years).

T.W. stalking, discussion on assault and drug references.

I have this fear. Not all guys, but certainly at night I am cautious.

Partly learned by what I've been taught but also due to my own experiences. I've had friends who have been attacked, I've experienced what it's like to be stalked, and I have a general awareness that I am not a threatening presence with my lanky stature and kind face. So I greatly prefer travelling with friends at night than on my own. We often decide on disaster plans before we go out, such as what we would do in certain scenarios if they were to arise. I am greatly aware that those who seem friendly may have ulterior motives, but I try not to be paranoid yet I try to keep a careful eye on things.

Being stalked definitely messed with me emotionally. It left me anxious and having backup plans really helps to calm me a little. Personally, I am socially anxious and I prefer to be the most sober in a room so I can care for others / ensure they make it back safely and I don't like feeling vulnerable. I can't fully let myself relax because the thought of that makes me uncomfortable. Now, it's less of a fear of being assaulted (although I do make sure to watch my drink and the drinks of others) and more of a fear that I'll end up stalked, emotionally harassed or otherwise physically harmed.

When I was fourteen, my school had us watch a PSA about staying safe with advice such as looking out for warning signs and making sure no one drugs your drink. Further, we had a self-defense lesson and advice on what to do in certain situations. Particularly how you might approach a situation if you happened to be wearing impractical clothing and needed to make a quick getaway.

I won't go out at night on my own or in a weird area by myself, I realise that this is literally putting myself into a dangerous situation therefore taking a risk with my body, especially not when 85,000 rapes in the UK go unreported.

It's more logical to take a friend or partner if you really have to go out. I'd love the idea of a night walk but I just don't think it's a wise decision. Maybe if you lived in the absolute middle of no where then possibly.

I'm not sure if posting adult content is against the rules in a section that is not exclusively for adults. That is why we have the adult sections here. I suppose I could start a new thread in the adult section to state my question but I have a feeling it may spark up an argument between the men and women. So maybe I shouldn't post it at all, just to be on the safe side.