Women is kissing important in a relationship ?

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I guess it just depends on the woman. For me, kissing comes naturally in a relationship if I'm attracted to the other person.

It is close and intimate, more so than sharing via talking how you feel. It can also stimulate private parts…

As an NT female who is engaged to an Aspie, I have become very used to not kissing. My Fiance is not particularly in to kissing at all. I don't think he is afraid to do it as such, I get the impression he is just not interested in this aspect of a physical relationship. We do kiss occasionally, but I suspect he is not really very comfortable with intimate kissing. He hugs far more often than he kisses - in fact I would say he was a 'hugger' as opposed to a 'kisser'. My Fiance is the first Aspie I have ever known, so obviously this is the first time I have encountered this. And I can honestly say it doesn't bother me at all! I would much rather have a cuddle than a kiss, he puts so much affection in to his cuddling, it feels so much more meaningful than an uncomfortable or forced kiss ever could. The lovely hugs I get from him more than make up for the lack of kissing. Fortunately kissing was never something that massively appealed to me, even before I met my Fiance, so I am more than happy to live with this. I hope this view from an NT female is helpful to you.

I don't need kissing with tongue. I dont like spit. I dont necessarily need kissing at all. Sometimes it feels forced and, well, nothing forced is good or is meaningful. Period. So if you dont like kissing, dont push it. People can tell.

Why NTs view it as a "lack of love" is because for centuries, for as long as romantic love has existed, kissing has been an expression of affection, attraction, and sexuality. They say the lips have the most nerve endings in them- although I dont know if I believe that.

For me, kissing on the cheek or lips (no tongue) may come naturally. You know, sometimes, if you're in "The Act," you may naturally want to kiss the person, because it feels like you are feeling them in more ways than just with your body.

If an NT who is in a relationship with you wants to plant one on you, know that it isnt' about sensory stimulation for them; instead they may feel overwhelmed with affection and that is how they show it.

I'm not offended if my boyfriend does not want to kiss, I actually prefer not to. But sometimes I get that urge to.

I'm not much of a fan of kissing. My husband is an Aspie too and he like to kiss more than I do. When I do want to kiss, I mostly just like little kisses around the lips, no tongue and I have this thing where I don't like him taking my breath. Sounds weird I know.

I hate kissing anyone apart from my husband though. You know the people who expect cheek kisses. If I have to to avoid more annoyingness, I will just do a lip brush.