aspies vs women- where have you felt contradictions?

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I think I'm rather girlish, but when it comes to clothes, comfort is definitely most important.

I've always felt like a faker in terms of femininity. It's not that I feel male, or androgynous, I just don't feel comfortable in a body that I am supposed to promote as being attractive or having some kind of interesting value in and of itself. I've never really felt connected to my body, but supposedly being in a body and taking care of it, dressing it, putting makeup on, are supposed to be really important to women. I follow suit to a degree but it's mostly from social pressure.

I think I'm fairly okay when it comes to fashion and make-up; I love to wear cosmetics and interesting outfits. I guess my problem comes in the fact that I'm extreme about both of these things: I love really heavy eyeshadow and liner and I can't match clothes to save my life. People just think I'm eccentric about fashion, but I guess I can't seem to understand that my choices in fashion and beauty aren't exactly seen as "normal" by neurotypicals.

I don't wear high heels often--not because I don't like them, but because my balance is so poor that I fall over when I try to walk in them.

And I don't let anyone touch my hair. If I want to cut it or color it, I do it myself regardless of how weird it may turn out. I dyed it purple last year and I'm itching to try another color now, but it was too much of a hassle so I may actually get it done professionally this time.

I love jewelry...I'm developing a piercing addiction. I don't care about people touching me or putting needles into my face...I guess I am something of a pain addict.