sizeism prejudice against fat women and short males

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While women prefer tall men, I notice its mostly tall GUYS who go out of their way to mock and snub short(er) men. Particularly with the MOST inflammatory slur Shrimp .Ive never heard women rideculing short men as much as saying in personals adds how much they want a tall man. However, I FREQUENTLY hear women mocking the HELL out of fat men and lamenting about how gross they are and how their Hubby's are getting fat and need to drop some pounds OR how fat men are always stalking them online .

I saw a tv program called 'Human Instinct' today which said that tall men are attractive because they are more likely to be stronger (yes there will be exceptions), and at some point in the past this was needed for protection. Also women of healthy weight are more attractive for more obvious evolutionary reasons - sick people are bad at making and staying alive to look after babies. Also on the human instinct program, I saw that despite the media's obsession with very skinny women, most men prefer a somewhat curvy woman.

I don't think we should criticize people for being attracted to a certain type of person, or call it prejudice - who or what someone is attracted to can be strange and not under one's control.

There's quite a difference between being 'not attracted to someone' and 'treating someone as inhuman trash.' Gay men are, by definition, not attracted to women - and yet we tend to get along fantastically well with them.

I can totally relate...I'm 5'5, 125 pounds, and I have a distinctly curvy and very female body--little waist, big hips, big bust. I'm hourglass, which was considered to be the ideal shape many years ago

But I have yet to find a guy who finds my shape attractive. Every guy I've liked has encouraged me to lose weight...and several have suggested I get plastic surgery! I don't see what's wrong with being a curvy--not heavy--girl...but everyone seems to think that having an hourglass shape is "unhealthy" or something that needs to be "fixed".

Sigh.

Not being a gay man, I cannot speak for them; however, I suspect that they are simply abandoning some of the negative, burdensome aspects of patriarchal culture since they cannot enjoy the benefits of it anyway. Not all gay men, by the way, are into feather boas et all. In fact, Of the gay men I have known, only a minority of them get into that - and then only for partys and 'special' occasions.

As far as why gay men and hetero women are natural allies, I think it's easy: there is neither the potential for sex between friends nor the competition for partners between friends. A gay person and a straight person can treat each other as human beings, and be attracted (not in a sexual way, obviously) more purely on the basis of harmonious personality traits and mutual likes than any other two people. I don't know if it works as well between straight men and gay women.

True but I also find a lot of straight men who if not more are socially aggressive.

I am a petite female that has difficulty finding jeans in my size because they changed the number on the size. Also, I've had some really rude comments for being skinny from random strangers. Anyone can be a "sizist"