A man touched me and I almost threw up

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i don't know if anyone feels as i do,
i like the idea of romantic even
sexual things but then if a guy
i know tries something, i tend to
freeze up, i totally hate this side of
myself because i don't want to end
up all alone.
but i can't help this feeling of disgust
and hate towards all kinds of men.
i don't know what to do.

You have the right to privacy and that includes your body. My Mum told me that no one should touch you ANYWHERE if you have said you don't want them to/don't like it. It is especially wrong when they touch you in a private place. I would report him to the cops if I were you, but I am not you so you have to decide for yourself.

"A man touched me and i almost threw up"

that is a good way to get him off of you

try doin some martial arts. would be good for if anyone touched your boobs unwelcomed.... as well as probably give you some self esteem in a physical manner which i think would do you good.

A person who'd do that you to doesn't care about you. To inappropriately touch you like that is wrong and should be reported. Talking to him is probably not going to work because he isn't listening to you, your feelings, your experiences, or what you want. It is in your best interest that you have this man dealt with ASAP. The constant persual could count as stalking too, possibly.

And that therapist who said you're "encouraging" him because you didn't scream needs to be dropped immediately. How can someone trained in psychology not understand that saying "no" means no, and you don't have to scream it? Any breech of your no is wrong. Sounds like he's a jerk.

Best of luck to you in dealing with this situation.

I totally agree. By not screaming and punching, probably in his mind you're leading him on (that's how these people usually justify their behaviour to themselves and others - your therapist may have meant this); simply saying no is, for him, playing hard to get. Merely saying 'no' is not going to stop him (it should, but it won't), you need to take action. He's probably harassing you because he feels you are vulnerable. Seriously, this guy sounds dangerous.



Sorry to hear that, I guess you must have had pretty bad experiences with men. Maybe getting some guy friends might help you feel more comfortable in the presence of men? Say a guy taken for the long haul or something, before looking for guys for romance?

I wouldn't know what to do. Report it to the police? Most police are male. Most judges are male, the scumbag who assaulted you is a male. Therefor they have no understanding whatsoever what how horrible it was for you and will take his side and blame you. If he does get a sentence it will be very soft and he'll soon be out again, he won't have learned anything, and he will try to do it again. Useless.

I don't know, maybe next time you really should throw up on him. Or kick him in the groin really hard. The excruciating pain he will feel will only a fraction of your own undeserved suffering.

Gentle note: This thread is 8 yrs old.