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hartzofspace
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01 Jun 2011, 5:52 pm

MollyTroubletail wrote:
From many years of life experience, I think you should just drop the subject with your boyfriend even though you are right and he is wrong. Let it go. If he's really that clueless you're beating your head against the wall, and there's a chance that he does get it but is too stubborn to want to admit he was wrong.

Next time you want to go out together, sit him down beforehand and spell out the rules. Tell him flat out that you don't expect to see him getting too chummy with any women unless you are included. It doesn't matter if he understands why or not. If he doesn't want to upset you, he will follow the rules or face the consequences.

Great advice. Thanks!


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01 Jun 2011, 6:01 pm

MollyTroubletail wrote:
From many years of life experience, I think you should just drop the subject with your boyfriend even though you are right and he is wrong. Let it go. If he's really that clueless you're beating your head against the wall, and there's a chance that he does get it but is too stubborn to want to admit he was wrong.

Next time you want to go out together, sit him down beforehand and spell out the rules. Tell him flat out that you don't expect to see him getting too chummy with any women unless you are included. It doesn't matter if he understands why or not. If he doesn't want to upset you, he will follow the rules or face the consequences.


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01 Jun 2011, 6:19 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:
MollyTroubletail wrote:
From many years of life experience, I think you should just drop the subject with your boyfriend even though you are right and he is wrong. Let it go. If he's really that clueless you're beating your head against the wall, and there's a chance that he does get it but is too stubborn to want to admit he was wrong.

Next time you want to go out together, sit him down beforehand and spell out the rules. Tell him flat out that you don't expect to see him getting too chummy with any women unless you are included. It doesn't matter if he understands why or not. If he doesn't want to upset you, he will follow the rules or face the consequences.


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01 Jun 2011, 7:50 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:
MollyTroubletail wrote:
From many years of life experience, I think you should just drop the subject with your boyfriend even though you are right and he is wrong. Let it go. If he's really that clueless you're beating your head against the wall, and there's a chance that he does get it but is too stubborn to want to admit he was wrong.

Next time you want to go out together, sit him down beforehand and spell out the rules. Tell him flat out that you don't expect to see him getting too chummy with any women unless you are included. It doesn't matter if he understands why or not. If he doesn't want to upset you, he will follow the rules or face the consequences.


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01 Jun 2011, 8:02 pm

hartzofspace wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
MollyTroubletail wrote:
From many years of life experience, I think you should just drop the subject with your boyfriend even though you are right and he is wrong. Let it go. If he's really that clueless you're beating your head against the wall, and there's a chance that he does get it but is too stubborn to want to admit he was wrong.

Next time you want to go out together, sit him down beforehand and spell out the rules. Tell him flat out that you don't expect to see him getting too chummy with any women unless you are included. It doesn't matter if he understands why or not. If he doesn't want to upset you, he will follow the rules or face the consequences.


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04 Jun 2011, 7:57 am

@hartzofspace = Its good that you vented your frustration here because your BF being male, probably will not get it and your wasting energy trying to make him see that. Please don't be so hard on him. Some things he (they) will simply be oblivious too and over analyzing will just make you crazy.



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04 Jun 2011, 9:54 am

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@hartzofspace = Its good that you vented your frustration here because your BF being male, probably will not get it and your wasting energy trying to make him see that. Please don't be so hard on him. Some things he (they) will simply be oblivious too and over analyzing will just make you crazy.

Yes, I agree. I have learned this the hard way. I thought that I could apply logic and get him to see what I wanted him to. It's just not possible. I saw my counselor yesterday, and she helped me to come up with some coping strategies. My boyfriend and I also are looking for couples counseling.


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