do you have/want friends?

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I go back and forth on this.

Some days I get really lonely. I wish I was able to just call someone up and ask to talk or hang out, but I have no idea how to do that.
Other days I want to hole up and hide, and just not bother dealing with people at all.

Yes, I do have female friends but most of them are either Aspies, nerds, or artists. None of them are NTs or super-girly, which I prefer.

Had friends, alienated them all. Now not so much.

I would love a good friend, but am sick of superficial relationships. They tire me.

I also think having too many friends can make us very stressed out.

There are a lot of people I know, and I consider them "friend" because they aren't enemies and they are more than acquaintances. I will stop and exchange niceties ("hello" "how have you been" "what have you been up to since the last time I saw you") they will give me one-line sentences, and I will give them a "brief history" naturally. XD

But I only have 2 close friends. One of them since I was very small, we have been best friends. The other, joint our duo around year 9 at school. We were all inseparable, but as the other two became closer friends (they became friends through me, I was friends with the new one first, because I sat next to her in Spanish class) I broke away slightly, and eventually it sort of became them two and me, rather than us three. They didn't do it on purpose, in fact I don't know if they really noticed until I started becoming really withdrawn.

Then my now partner, became my closest friend.
I kind of drifted away from them because I was spending all my time with my partner but I tried to keep in contact as best I could... Which wasn't very well.

But now, we make the effort to see each other every now and then, and we speak on facebook. We usually play SingStar at my house. They were the only two people I'd sing in front of (properly) until recently, when I sung in front of my partner. But they are still the only few. Because they are the only people I trust not to judge me, or at least to judge me truthfully and fairly.

I want a friend...one thats a girl, NO OFFENCE but I'd feel more comfertible with a girl, cuz I am one.

I have my sisters and I guess the guy I live with. I don't want anymore than that.

I don't have any friends outside of family and that's ok. Sure, I'd like to have friends, but that's not going to happen and I found that the constant rejection was frustating, depressing, and hurtful. I'm much happier now that I've stopped trying.

I only have online friends and I don't want friends really. I have had enough rejections and not having things in common and having a hard time relating. I am happy with a husband and child and am happy without friends. It's better that way. No more suffering and having a roadblock.

However I have one old friend from elementary school, but we don't even keep in touch or even see each other. But we have each other on Facebook. Maybe someday we will arrange a play date for our kids to play together when my son is old enough to play with other kids.

I haven't had any friends since high school.

I'd be lying if I stated that I'm okay with that. I have the most difficult time connecting with people.

Whenever someone tries to befriend me I end up finding out that they either don't have the best motives, or the friendship tapers off because I'm not who or what they expected me to be.

It always leaves me feeling confused, disappointed and slightly hurt.

I haven't even had any success making friends over the internet .. lol

I don't have any.
'used to think my daughter was my friend, she loves me, but isn't my friend.
She has moved away and that is hard at times, otherwise it's o.k.
I guess I want a friend who doesn't get all freaked out with how I am, who isn't NT, who would tolerate and understand AS and OCD and anxiety, etc.

I'd love to have friends so I could have a normal life like other people.

Close, where I can see and talk to them sometimes...a lady and her daughter. That's it. I live in a place where everyone talks to each other, but I have been told that some women here think I am "too serious." I like to have fun and drink with my husband, etc...but I am not one to sit with girls to talk, let me kiddo run wild, and drink...so I don't really fit in with them. And the women who aren't partying here, well, they always seem to be butting into my life. Frankly, I wish I had more friends, but I am totally worn out. I feel I can't trust ANY NT woman. They are always looking for gossip, etc...if you confide ANYTHING to them, it seems two days later the entire freaking apt complex knows...I have, even men, telling me how I should dress, what I should do with my kiddo, how I should treat my husband, etc...My family, ie. kiddo, husband and I, have a great time together. I don't know why people are so nosey...so now I just stay the heck away.